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[–] TelescopiumHerscheli 3 points 26 points (+29|-3) ago 

Whatever you do, don't complain about this, as that would lead you to being labelled as a troublemaker, or misogynist, or whatever. The only thing you can do is smile politely, keep quiet, and carry on doing your work as normal. Since your colleague is, in your own words, "very capable", there is nothing you can do. Just accept that there will be other opportunities where you will be favoured. Do not be bitter about this, as this will only affect your postition adversely. There will be other awards dinners.

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[–] PraiseIPU 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

They had to pay a lit of money to go to the dinner. Any good reputable awards show would be free to the ppl receiving awards.

This awards show is a racket to make money stroking ppls egos.

Hold your own awards show OP make ppl pay to come. Make sure you give yourself a couple awards so the girls will fuck you.

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[–] Slayfire122 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Absolutely what he said. This is one way we will never be equal. Companies have always liked to display their women employees, especially the attractive ones. However, there will be other opportunities, perhaps a business trip or something.

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[–] weezkitty 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Just accept that there will be other opportunities where you will be favoured

Right

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 1 points 15 points (+16|-1) ago 

Female privilege is very real, and it's just called "female privilege", not "reverse-privilege". That's like saying "reverse-racism"; there is no such thing - it's just racism.

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[–] magnetismen 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

There are many situations that you get chosen for your appearance regardless of race/gender/sexual orientation etc. When I lived in Japan I was often asked to come along to customer meetings because "you're white and we need to have an international profile". It sucks, and I'm not saying it's good. I'm saying that it happens on every level of every part of the business world.

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[–] bugmenot 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Being white and attending business meetings can be a full time job in China. They like to showcase a foreigner when signing contracts.

It's a pretty cool job I think.

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[–] Tsugumori 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Yeah, some places will even pay you to just walk around the building pretending to be an employee. I'd never do it because I'm terrified of the PRC, but it sounds like a sweet job.

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[–] magnetismen 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

That may be, personally I like to think that people want me for my skills rather than my appearance (which is why I'm in charge of the Japanese market at my current employer). The point however that I was making was that regardless of being subject to discriminating for you or against you, it's still discrimination. I know that I was taking up a position that someone else, more suitable could have taken but I got to do it solely because I was white. Discrimination is bad, even if you benefit from it.

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[–] onegin 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Good to see something like this on the BBC. But as usual, women dominating the discussion, despite not knowing jack about the subject.

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[–] CttCJim 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You need to join us over in /v/mensrights

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[–] Call_Me_Kelly 1 points 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

/v/masculinism is another place op might like to cross post, also.

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[–] WhiteSoIMustBeRacist 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Walk in there with a hidden camera, and record them saying it. (Hopefully you live in a one-party state, but that doesn't matter much anymore).

Then go talk to a lawyer. ???? and profit.

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[–] goatboy 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago  (edited ago)

In the US you could file an EEOC complaint with HR. I don't know what country uses "quid" as a currency, but you may be able to file a similar complaint and possible law suit. If two employees have equal seniority, then they should have paid for both of you to go, instead of making the lame excuse that only one senior person could go. Make them pay more in a suit and they wont make any more lame excuses like that again.

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[–] odinist 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I don't know what country uses "quid" as a currency

England.

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[–] goatboy 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Wow today I learned something new. What exactly are quid? Is that something England picked up from Harry Potter's quidditch?

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[–] TelescopiumHerscheli 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago  (edited ago)

UK here. I suspect that on the basis of an isolated incident you cannot reasonably claim that there is systematic bias against you on the basis of gender, and I'm pretty sure that any reputable lawyer would tell you the same. As I said before, the best thing you can do is just let this wash over you - water off a duck's back - and carry on with work as normal. Letting this get to you will cause you nothing but trouble in the medium- and long-terms.

If you do begin to suspect that there is systematic bias against you on the basis of gender then your position may change, of course, but it's worth noting that any manager worth his salt will be able to find ten different reasons for favouring any employee over any other. For example, "too inexperienced to attend" can easily morph into "needs to get experience of this kind of event"; "hasn't been performing to the highest standard lately" can become "needs a positive experience to motivate them to perform better"; "has performed better than everyone else in the team" becomes "needs to learn how to work better in team situations"; and so on. Any positive can become a negative, and vice versa. Don't fall into the trap of bothering about this. The guys who are advising you to file a complaint will not have to deal with the (probably negative) repercussions of doing so. You've already said yourself that she's "very capable". Let it go.

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