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[–] LemonRose 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

There's no need to take an all or nothing approach on advice. For me, the trick is to treat it as brainstorming. If I have an issue, I want you to throw out ideas at me. My cousin had that problem and x worked for them. Or I read an article about x online. Don't tell me what to do. Don't expect me to do what you tell me. Don't expect that your solution must be THE answer. But brainstorming is totally fine.

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[–] 2331161? [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Agreed. The author admits she still gives advice, but thinks twice before doing so. The article does make a good point that some people reflexively give advice that is inexpert and unappreciated, despite best intentions. I know that I am guilty of this. There is a time and place for advice, certainly, it's just not everywhere at every opportunity.

The real danger is when viral misinformation (like anti-vaxxers) leads a significant group of people to not only give advice, but advice that despite being well intentioned, is misinformed and could lead to death. I have a cousin who died of pancreatic cancer, and she was taking the advice of church people to reject modern medicine.

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[–] LemonRose 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I'm sorry to hear that. :( There is way more bad advice out there than good advice.

Been down that road. The best is when you take someone's advice, against your better judgment, because you trust them. Then it doesn't work, instead things get much much worse. And they blame you.

Learning to research advice before you follow it, no matter how much you trust the source, and trusting your own evaluation more than anyone else is a valuable life lesson - and usually a painful one.