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[–] PaulNeriAustralia 13 points -13 points (+0|-13) ago 

having kids is no guarantee against social isolation in old age. The best laid plans of mice and parents can go badly astray (looking at folk I know). Ok, as a non-breeder I do feel more than a little smug. All those folk busily having kids and a miserable life in the process and telling themselves their kids will be there for them and when they reach 40 they'd be lucky to be on speaking terms with their kids and come very old age their kids want them to die because, quite rightly, they are a pain in the neck!

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[–] Drunkenst 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

sophistry

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[–] PaulNeriAustralia 3 points -3 points (+0|-3) ago 

"sophistry" means a fallacious argument.

I'm basing my position on observations over a lifetime. I am yet to meet a parent who didn't have at least some regrets about having kids.

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[–] InyourfaceNancyGrace 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I honestly don't know a single parent (or at least I don't know that I know them) that is so narcissistic as to have children just so their kids could take care of them in old age. If you know some then you just know stupid people. If you want cared for in your later years save your kid money and make investments that will pay for your assisted-living later on.

Having kids for the sole reason of having them care for you when you're older is psychopathic and stupid. There are so many good reasons to have kids - too many to list, and you don't seem the type to have the capacity to understand them anyway.

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[–] PaulNeriAustralia ago 

why so defensive, Nancy? I'll tell you why. It's because there's more than a nugget of truth in what I say about parenting.

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[–] 22860396? 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Oh fuck off loser. Of course a plan might not come to fruition. You could live the best life in history and a falling airliner could land on your house.

The point is that GENERALLY speaking having a big family is pretty good insurance against being alone. Arabs, Indians, Pakis... those people don't die alone in hospital wards. Crazy cat ladies do.

As for being smug, you shouldn't be. You have failed in your basic duties as a living organism. You haven't shown that you have the maturity and fortitude to raise offspring. Raising a child well takes skill, patience, and a host of other qualities that basement dwelling nerds will never develop through fapping to anime.

I don't regret kids, but I'm well aware of the cost involved in terms of time and stress.

You seem like one of those Jordan Peterson fans who believe all life is suffering, that all families are dysfunctional. You exude the stench of the Jewish worldview.

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[–] PaulNeriAustralia ago 

You come across as very defensive, bro. There's a bit of a contribution to objective inquiry there viz " I'm well aware of the cost involved in terms of time and stress" but overall I'm left with the suspicion you're resentful about having reproduced. I used to live next to a couple who seemed the model of happiness. They had a kid and for the first time I heard arguments and screaming matches and hubby storming out in a rage. There's nothing like a kid to test a relationship to the limits. I simply wouldn't advise it. Can I say bro, being honest, I think kids can be cute and I especially like them after they've had a bath (filthy little wretches that they are) but ... it's a relief to leave them with their parents. I have really appreciated the time I've had in my life to watch a tv show uninterrupted by a kid, read the newspaper etc but most of all it's been the flexibility one has. To be able to say to one's partner on the spur of the moment: "let's take off and have a few days in the City/by the sea". The other thing, bro, about parents is they can never spoil themselves. The kids' needs always come first. The parents think this makes them unselfish and us breeders selfish but they are wrong. All it makes the parents is resentful and jealous and unsettled, unpleasant human beings. Agree?

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[–] Humansized 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

youre fucking stupid. its good you havent passed your defective genes.

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[–] PaulNeriAustralia ago 

I read all your posts and have been following you for some time. I think you're a really swell guy. I hope this is just a passing phase for you and in time you'll value my right to share a lifestyle experience. Tell me something, bro, why are breeders so intolerant to non-breeders and so sensitive not so much to criticism but people adopting a different lifestyle choice to them? It's as if they see it as a challenge to their decision-making which makes them insecure: "did we do the right thing, dear?".