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[–] SOULESS 3 points -3 points (+0|-3) ago 

Yes. The same thing that happened to me. I am the type of person who would rather stay in with my dog and play videogames. I never dated meaningfully since I just didn't have the social skills or drive to meet new people.

You have to suck it up and force yourself into leaving your comfort zone. You need to learn how to ask people about who they are, how they got like that, and who they aspire to be. Social skills are very important and if you lack them the sooner you start, the better.

I started awfully late. I'm still anxious about telling the guy who would like to date me that I've not had a first kiss and displays of affection are foreign and uncomfortable for me. But it's something I need to work on or it'll never happen.

Don't encourage people to continue reinforcing their bad habits.


[–] B166-ER 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

See this is how much easier women have it... the comment made by RollinDaGrassTyson went completely over your head because you have absolutely no frame of reference of what's its like as a man being expected to put yourself out there knowing all it takes is one high and mighty cunt to turn you into Big Bob's personal fleshlight.

I'm not trying to start shit or anything but, fwiw, you do know what happens when quiet/shy guys try to FORCE themselves into dates, right?

I have NEVER, I'll repeat, I have NEVER IN MY LIFE heard a woman say that she DOES NOT want men to pursue her. If I've ever heard a woman talk about men pursuing her it was to comment that men should do it more. Well if you're a guy and you pursue a woman who happens to find you attractive... good job you found a GF the romantic and preferable way. Now the same scenario, the woman doesn't find you attractive... JAIL... right to JAIL and ass-rape.

So listen up men, if you do what women say they want you to do you're more likely to end up in prison fucked daily by Bubba than having her say "Yes" to your date. Statistically speaking, and women can confirm this, "No" is said WAAAYYYYYYY more than "Yes".


[–] SOULESS 2 points -2 points (+0|-2) ago 

No. That's him misunderstanding what I mean by force. Dating apps are for dating. If they are uninterested they'll ignore you.

By forcing YOURSELF, not harassing someone and forcing THEM.


[–] B166-ER 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Just be glad that guys don't really care about that stuff with women. As a man who has similar issues due to lack of dating. I'm what 98% of women would call hopelessly undatable, unfuckable, not-even,... Its sad because like with women you can fix those habits pretty quickly with some successful dating... but you know... that requires people wanting to date you. As a man that's nearly impossible to yet is as quickly fixed as it is with women. You and I would need 2-3 short relationships with some sex and we'd be pretty much normal. The difference is you could knock those out in a month without lowering your standards much if at all... while I would need anywhere from 1-45years to get those dates in and I'd have to SEVERELY lower my standards... like rock bottom.


[–] SOULESS 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

It took me about two and a half years to work through my issues and get to the point I'm at now where I'm ready to start an actual relationship.

Again, a lot of it was pushing myself out of my comfort zone, toning my body, and I live in an area where stay-at-home mothers are not a thing. People look for "independent women", so it was during my college years where I was getting a computer science degree.

My first date ended with a male who was horrified I wouldn't even hug him at the end and he said: "This has been the most awkward date of my life." as he walked towards his car. Worthwhile people don't want you if you aren't worthwhile. While yes, I understand girls do have it easier in general that doesn't change that you can do things to improve your chances with women. Work on YOURSELF to be on the same level as the girls you would like to date. Yes, it takes time and effort. But it's possible. You really have to try and keep a positive outlook and avoid the types of girls who are shallow and indecent. Every day is a change to take one step closer towards the well rounded person you want to be.