0
7

[–] Kal 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

I'm sorry this happened to you. It's a sad state of affairs when some minutes of these doctors time is more important than how your child comes into this world. Some of them are rightly called butchers.

1
5

[–] theoldones 1 points 5 points (+6|-1) ago  (edited ago)

"GET A C-SECTION BECAUSE YOU TOTALLY NEED TO GET BACK TO WORK AND BE A STRONG INDEPENDENT WOMAN"

god, the people in the medical industry today make me sick. if these people could put every child on hormone blockers and ritalin for a quick paycheck, they would do so

1
3

[–] waxdino [S] 1 points 3 points (+4|-1) ago 

Honestly, it's still such a sensitive topic all this time later I can't go into the story and why it happened. I feel like it's my fault for not "fighting hard enough" or whatever. I knew this was a problem and still got caught up in it and it happened to me. Goddamn it :'(

0
2

[–] RemyLeBeaux 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

When you are under the hormones and pain and stress of labor, it's very easy for a doctor to manipulate the woman by telling her, "oh yes your baby is definitely in distress. Gotta have that C-section. I have a golf game in 2 hours." You'll agree to almost anything when in that state, especially to protect your could. Husband needs to intervene.

0
2

[–] iwar 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Sorry for you.. But honestly you should tell your story in detail some day. That's the only way to really raise awareness.

0
1

[–] MaunaLoona 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I hope you had enough sense not to give in to circumcision (if it was a boy).

1
0

[–] i_scream_trucks 1 points 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

...

My head was too fucking big and i kept my mum in labour for 48 hours..... its not new.

0
3

[–] GumbyTM 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I realize this is upsetting and you aren't wrong but try to also remember that you have (I hope) a new healthy child which you will spend the rest of your life with.

Start a movement to help other women prevent the same or cope but do it later when the time is right. For now you have a brand new family and a little one that needs your attention.

Congrats and good luck.

0
3

[–] NewWorld 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I want you to know that you aren't alone. I'm not going to get into details but I know several women who were forced/coerced/bullied into c-sections they didn't want OR need. I hope all doctors are subjected to the same level of care that they give out.

0
2

[–] RemyLeBeaux 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Never go to a hospital to give birth. Hospitals are for the sick. Doctors are experts in illness, not health.

Give birth at a Birth center under the guidance and expertise of certified midwives.

0
0

[–] Ticklepaws 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

Better yet, give birth at home with a midwife. A lot of the birth centers popping up these days are glossy fronts for "you're laboring too much, the doctor will have to admit you, shove you on your back, and CSection you."

0
2

[–] Adminstrater 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

caring doctors

We are always unlearning stuff we learned as children. Just don't pass it on to the next generation, and they might have an opportunity to do better. Good luck.

0
2

[–] littul_kitton 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

What were the details? Some emergency Cesareans are justified.

But I am still sorry things did not turn out the way you wanted.

0
1

[–] Ina_Pickle 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Ah. My eldest was breach. A baby can be born successfully from the breech position, but it's dangerous. Mine would have died because it turned out the cord was wrapped around the throat.

It was my choice to have a cesarean the next time. I already had the scar and figured I would keep my lady bits in perfect shape.

Edit: that said, I understand how you feel. I was extremely upset after my first child was born. I didn't feel like I got to have the full experience.

It starts to matter less the longer you have your child around. Mothering them doesn't have anything to do with the way they were brought into the world.

If you can, breastfeed. It will help establish that connection you might feel you're missing.

load more comments ▼ (5 remaining)