I'm sure this goes without saying among you fine ladies but I wanted to share anyway. If you have a complaint against your husband, he is the only one that should hear of it and vice versa.
My brother-in-law has been confiding his frustrations with his wife to my mother-in-law. She, in turn, develops hard feelings towards his wife and then confides in my husband, her other son. My husband then comes home and tells me that they're having marital problems.
Now, I could spread this information to just one other person and our entire small town would eventually know. This would cause even more problems between the two of them also opening them up to attack from homewreckers lying in wait. By going to his mother (innocently enough) instead of cleaving to his wife, he has caused and potentially caused many bitter feelings towards my sweet sister-in-law within our family. I know that is not his design and that he loves her very much but this is why you keep your "venting" and frustrations between you and your spouse.
I had a friend that would come to me and complain incessantly about her husband. She would leave my house, go make him dinner, then post on facebook about how perfect he was. Of course, it eventually came out that she was bad mouthing me as well. Anyone that disparages their own husband like that will do it to everyone else.
I now make it clear to my friends that I won't hear their spouse bashing. If they need to "vent" I am not the one.
Preaching to the choir but thanks for listening anyway!