Men constantly bitch and wine and complain about women. RIGHT?
Women are fat
Whamen are liberal
etcetera etcetera
I've been dating a woman for over a year now and when I meat met her she was obese. No if's about it. However, we clicked so well ideologically and politically I decided to give her a shot.
I was honest though. I said, "You are fat, if you are serious about a relationship with me you need to lose weight."
Welp. She did. 30 pounds and she turned into a shit lady. Women are looking for a man to lead her to and be honest with her.
You may talk shit to me about dating a fatty and you would lose the point of the story.
Women crave leadership. You can take the most liberal and even Fat woman and turn her into a right wing shitlady by just guiding her and being honest.
Problem is that men aren't honest and don't have goals. I've dated legit 10/10 women and I was young so it was just a fling. As I get older I realized that ideology and compatibility is important. Looks still matter and that's what I communicated and it works.
So stop being a coward and find a woman regardless of her weight, and if you like her make it clear she must be healthy first before you become serious.
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[–] Eleutheria 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I had the same thing happen with an ideological swing, to a lesser extent. I didn't really talk politics with my girlfriend for the first date or two, but knew she was at least 2A friendly because she's from the country and owns guns. At the one month mark, I find out she was right leaning, but mostly apolitical.
Last night, we were killing time by watching a TV show (which rarely happens), and she called out a racemixed couple before I did.
I don't even consider myself a good "leader", but over time I just calmly and rationally made my points. I didn't have to be as "on the nose" about it as I would with a more pressing issue like weight, but it worked. I could have just as easily said "Wow, I found someone, I need to tone it down and match her political bent so I don't scare her off". But that would have shown a complete lack of leadership, and she would have found a new "leader" somewhere in (((pop culture))).