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[–] Eleutheria 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I had the same thing happen with an ideological swing, to a lesser extent. I didn't really talk politics with my girlfriend for the first date or two, but knew she was at least 2A friendly because she's from the country and owns guns. At the one month mark, I find out she was right leaning, but mostly apolitical.

Last night, we were killing time by watching a TV show (which rarely happens), and she called out a racemixed couple before I did.

I don't even consider myself a good "leader", but over time I just calmly and rationally made my points. I didn't have to be as "on the nose" about it as I would with a more pressing issue like weight, but it worked. I could have just as easily said "Wow, I found someone, I need to tone it down and match her political bent so I don't scare her off". But that would have shown a complete lack of leadership, and she would have found a new "leader" somewhere in (((pop culture))).