People posting "me too" about being sexually abused are boasting that this is a wonderful thing. I beg to differ. We have made it our custom for years, not to publish the names of rape victims. And why is that? It is in recognition of the lowest of human impulses. And you will see the same base trait revealed in the abhorrent practice of "honor killings."
Most people are not born predators, and most people have no desire to seriously study the criminal mind. Most people believe that by keeping their thoughts focused on good things, that only good will come of it. That happy delusion makes it hard to face the facts: the predatory mind is ceaselessly scanning for any vulnerability. They are AUTOMATICALLY drawn to anyone who assumes the position of the victim. This crude, low type of person sees someone who has been raped as the perfect target for another insult, another attack, abuse to be heaped upon abuse.
Even though some are trying to elevate the discourse to shower honor and applause on everyone who steps up and says "me too," we must never forget the predators in the crowd, for whom being abused is seen not as a badge of honor, but as a stimulus. These days we say it is horrible to call someone who has been used sexually, "damaged goods." And it surely is cruel and insulting. That's why we don't say it any more. But I am here to remind you that even unspoken, these ideas are ancient and deep, and they have hardly vanished.
Now I am going to compare the announcing of sexual victimhood with the wearing of sagging pants. On the surface this is accepted as a fashion statement, and in certain circles, sagging is recognized and given props. But that fashion came straight out of our prisons, where it is done as a signal to rapos that this one has been turned out and it is okay to treat him as a punk. And rape him.
Now I will go further, and suggest that both of these memes, these fashions, have been dropped into our datastream WITH MALICIOUS INTENT, as yet another way of getting us to weaken ourselves, to do the work of our enemies, to keep us down, individually and as a culture.
Announcing "me too" on facebook and television, going into explicit, titillating detail about how we have been reduced to "damaged goods" before the eyes of the world, this is not helpful to the individual. The feeling of relief and pride and honor is SPURIOUS. This kind of talk has a place where it is beneficial, and that is IN PRIVATE, IN THERAPY, IN COUNSELING.
Of course we know that there are counselors, doctors, psychiatrists, people in positions of trust, who can and do violate that trust; and you have to use discernment to be sure the person you confide in will not turn on you. But when you put this stuff out there before the public you lose the ability to discern whether your audience can be trusted.
Your audience online can NOT be trusted, and statistically you can be SURE that there are predators listening, who are stimulated and drawn to you, because that's what they live for: to home in on anyone who looks and acts like they can be victimized.
Reporting to law enforcement may or may not be helpful to the victim. But running up and down the street yelling "I've been raped!" helps no one, and sets up the victim to be traumatized again.
Being drawn into behaviors that only expose us to more abuse, is one very prominent trend of these parlous days, in which we are being worked over to a fare-thee-well by powerful ur-predators who want to eat our lunch as a culture, and who have all the expertise in the world at hand; they have think tanks to advise on how to persuade people to shackle themselves, how to dial back their own expectations, how to fulfill their own script and go through life assuming the position of victim, while the manipulators joyfully assume the position of dominance, and reap the rewards.