I listen to a radio program where a woman has been emotionally abused by her husband over months real time (fiction), but it has hit home with me and many others.
Most of us were begging for it to stop just hearing it, it was so distressing, BUT...nothing you could put your finger on, nothing you could say he had done to harm, just the constant drip, drip drip of put downs, removals of liberties (you aren't safe to drive), removal of friends (If you love me you won't talk to her) you can't drive, you are mentally sick etc
I went through that in part and it was like fighting through treacle to even find a thought I thought for myself,
Like me and my husband ....'That's where the insane go, you should go there' when we were trying to find the place for marriage counselling at the hospital. He actually thought I was insane not to want to have sex with him.
It was in a totally different building and the counselor eventually took me aside and told me he was doing his best, as far as she could see, to prevent the counselling from working. As always, he told me It was my fault and I a was a pathetic pile of crap
I knew at that point he thought I was insane and the marriage counselling would not work...insane because I would not sleep with him?
I got out,
the woman in the radio soap opera stabbed her husband...I was oh so close to doing that!
Was I stupid and pathetic? did I ask for it?
So does it exist, do only men do it to women or do women do it to men?