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[–] MinorLeakage 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

So I feel like the standard response you're going to get is "leave her because you're clearly more invested than she is". I don't entirely disagree with that line of thinking, but I think it's a little too simplistic.

My opinion is really this:

You need to figure out exactly how much you want her, regardless of her feelings for you. If you really love her, then do your best to help her find that spark again. Be prepared for the possibility she may not find it, but at least you tried, and you can move on.

If you think about it really hard, and you're really not sure how you feel, and she isn't either, then after 6 years it's definitely time to move on. I don't believe taking a step back ever works out long-term for a relationship, so I personally wouldn't even try that route. Since this would be an amicable split, she could still take a few months to save the required money to move out. But I wouldn't hold any illusions. That would be the end of the relationship.

So I guess to paraphrase, you need make up your mind about what you want, and then try and get it. Let the cards fall where they may. Don't let your relationship die a slow death.

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[–] needingsomeadvice [S] 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Thanks for the response, I appreciate it.

I've done a lot of thinking about exactly that - trying to figure out if I really do want to be with her this badly or if I'm just afraid of being alone. The conclusion I've come to is that I love her with everything I am, and I genuinely want to be with her. I don't want to be alone, but that's not why I am fighting so hard for this. I'm fighting for it because I feel that it's worth it, and that these feeling she's having are temporary.

I really feel like she's genuinely confused about what she wants, and because of that, I feel there's still a chance. If she wasn't confused, she'd be gone already. She's had lots of opportunities to do just that.

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[–] MinorLeakage 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Well just make sure she knows how you feel. Keep doing your best, and I wish you all the luck and happiness in the world.