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[–] BigFatDaddy 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

Dude, don't play games with her. You know what you want and how you plan to get it. It sounds like she doesn't. You have been very honest and forthright about everything, it sounds like she hasn't. Best thing is to force her to choose, right now, whether she wants to be with you or not. None of this conflicted feelings lets work on it stuff. If you feel that the relationship could use some rekindling, that's one thing, but her moving out and "needing some space" is a different thing altogether. That's the separation before the divorce. Don't play games dude, and don't let her play them either.

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[–] needingsomeadvice [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Thanks, I appreciate the response. The logical side of me knows that you're probably right, but I mean, it's been almost 7 years. It's like just deciding not to see a family member anymore. It's a hard decision to make, especially when we both feel very conflicted. It would be a lot easier if she just didn't love me anymore.

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[–] BigFatDaddy 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I get that, I really do. But here's the thing, she's "conflicted" right? She will stay that way until absolutely forced to choose. Thats just how it works. I understand it can be scary because, what if she doesn't choose you? 7 years down the drain, right? But that's STILL better than dragging it all out. That will only maximize the pain for everyone involved. Just like taking off a bandaid, it's ALWAYS better to just get it over with.

She needs to make a choice. Does she want to be with you, or be a "strong independent women" although I don't see how your supporting her and caring for her is preventing that. Either way, she's the one who has to choose, and dragging things out does no one any favors.