I just don't know what to think anymore. She said that she still had feelings for her ex and wasn't interested/didn't feel the same way. I swallowed my pride, took it on the chin, and moved on. The very next day she messages me telling how much she loves me. I change the subject and ask her how her day was. We talk for a hour or two, Tell her I need some sleep. She says "Get some rest hun."
I don't know what to think anymore,,, Anyone been in a situation like this? Any advice? If you want any more info feel free to ask.
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[–] LittleBobbyTables 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Years into the future from now you're going to look back at this and go "wtf did I care or spend so much stress, anxiety, time, and energy over thay for". You'll hear this type of response from older people like myself. And they're/we're mostly right in saying that because most of us have experienced similar situations when we were teens - but that certainly doesn't help you now does it?
Here's where I'll be hopefully a bit different and more helpful. The truth is when adults say "take it from me" or "learn from my mistakes" they're forgetting that part of what got them to their conclusion and viewpoint was the need to go through those experiences first hand. Is how we learn who we are, what we want and don't want, and how to approach situations afterwards. It's kinda like burning your hand on a hot pot or similar; I can tell you it is hot and you'll burn yourself, but that doesn't really mean anything to you until you experience it. And that sucks sometimes but it's necessary.
So with that said I'll say this about your situation. Things are very confusing at your age for both genders. You're both trying to explore and learn what you want and don't. It's often hard to stay in one relationship for long as it causes mixed feelings - first, you're changing internally very rapidly so what you feel and want one day may change drastically a week later, only to revert back again 2 weeks later (so when things seem great with you and some girl they can nosedive suddenly, and when they seem lost it could come back again soon after); second, long term relationships are very rare from your age and that's probably for the best...if you spend your entire highschool and college years with the same person it may leave one or both of you wondering with some regret what other opportunities were missed out on and cause issues down the line. Sometimes mistakes need to be made to realize you had something great to begin with and go back to. So even if you start to feel rejected maybe just know that it really isn't necessarily you that she is confused about, she may be very confused about herself and what she wants as well, and she may be torn and not want to ruin a friendship with you or whatever. You're in some tough years but also some of the best years in my opinion so try to hang in there and have fun with it, but don't get too caught up thinking these things are all that matter in life ... you have so much ahead of you.