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[–] MGTOW_Xui 1 points 181 points (+182|-1) ago 

I am a male survivor of an abusive spouse. I can't tell you how scary these situations are. I don't care if you're a Ranger, a Navy SEAL, or a bodybuilder or any other of the variety of exceptionally strong men; an abusive partnership will bring you low and make you fear for your life. And there are virtually no resources for men. Men are even considered the perpetrators when they're the abuse victims! My abuser attacked me with a kitchen knife and cut my arm open - I had to get 10 stitches and have a permanent scar + loss of sensation from it. After she cut me, I threw her to the ground in self-defense, and ran outside. The neighbors called an ambulance because I was bleeding so bad. The police showed up - and I was arrested and driven to the hospital in handcuffs. As I was being loaded into the ambulance the police asked my abuser if she wanted a restraining order, and if I had hit her in the past. She told them "yes, he has hit me frequently" - I never touched her. But in the US legal system, a woman's word is the absolutely unquestionable truth. The police released me after the attending nurse spoke to them thankfully, and I didn't go to jail, but I had to have an hour long conversation with a social worker about "my anger issues".

45% of domestic abusive victims are men. 70% of unilateral abuse victims are men. Men make up the majority of spousal murder victims and are more likely to be injured and hospitalized from attacks with weapons. And there are no resources for men. This is one of the biggest issues facing our society and there's virtually nothing being said about it.

It took me 5 years to resolve my post-trauma stress issues.

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[–] weezkitty 2 points 81 points (+83|-2) ago 

45% of domestic abusive victims are men. 70% of unilateral abuse victims are men. Men make up the majority of spousal murder victims and are more likely to be injured and hospitalized from attacks with weapons. And there are no resources for men. This is one of the biggest issues facing our society and there's virtually nothing being said about it.

You can thank the feminists for that

Somehow domestic abuse and violence is not a problem if it is a female perpetrator. Not to mention the prisons turn a blind eye to male prison rape.

Then there is child custody where the female wins almost every time ... child support ... alimony... Need I go on?

Our system is severely biased preferably to females and against males

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[–] Xzal 0 points 22 points (+22|-0) ago  (edited ago)

It also doesn't help when over 80% of social workers are likely to be women too. https://archive.is/LgNXy

This means they are taken at their word, white knights defend them on it and then when you go through "processes" you are facing further abuse and misrepresentation.

Only with women on male attacks will a social worker treat you the aggressor, like a scum of the earth and a liar. (Edit; I accident a word.)

I do have one thing to say about the video however...

They only use Michaels first name to "protect his identity".. but then go on to use her FULL name. Any old joe is allowed to access court records & minutes which contain both full names and even then, people around the pair involved will know who the report is referring to.

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[–] lexsird 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

It's the pussy trap and it's dragging men to the plantation. Stay single I say.

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[–] SuperConductiveRabbi 0 points 61 points (+61|-0) ago 

Male domestic abuse victims are who call law enforcement for help are statistically more likely to be arrested themselves than their female partner. 47% of them are threatened with arrest, and 21% are arrested. PDF: http://wordpress.clarku.edu/dhines/files/2012/01/Douglas-Hines-2011-helpseeking-experiences-of-male-victims.pdf

How do I know this? I read /r/undelete, and I've seen this information get censored by the TIL mods multiple times from the frontpage of Reddit: https://www.reddit.com/r/undelete/search?q=til+male&restrict_sr=on&sort=relevance&t=all

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 29 points (+29|-0) ago 

Of course it's censored.

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[–] Nitrous 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Arguing with my ex she locked herself in her car with a knife and said she was going to kill herself. I lost control of the situation and needed help. She ripped her knecklace off and threw it at me just prior to the sucidal threat. I called 911. Two officers arrive one beeing female. My ex was in the car still, I standing at my front door. Yes rescue arrived (so i thought). They both come right up to me spin me around push me up againt the wall and cuff . I was treated like the enemy. They were going to arrest me. No question. I pleaded with them and with my ex to tell the truth. She told the truth.end of story they leave after warning us if they haveto come back here. BULLSHIT. She also tried stabbing me with a huge knife once. So unfair.

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[–] Foobarbaz 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

This right here is why I'm never getting married or horribly attached to a female. I'm not buying you dinner. I'm not buying you drinks. You're a "strong, independant women" -- you got this. I've met my fair share of crazy chicks and apparently i'm too stupid to pick sane women, so fuck it. I'll die alone and be done with it.

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[–] AzureNova 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Man, I'm sorry you had to go through all that. I work in a very liberal setting, and it pisses me off that this sort of violence is completely written off. Can you shoot me a link to the study with those statistics? I'd love to have that backing me up

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I'm on a new computer but here's some stuff I still have:

http://www.ncbi.nlm.nih.gov/pmc/articles/PMC1854883/

http://www.mintpressnews.com/woman-aggressor-unspoken-truth-domestic-violence/196746/

It's hard to find sources on this stuff - because nobody talks about it and nobody cares.

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[–] iamrage 3 points 68 points (+71|-3) ago  (edited ago)

Somewhat on/off topic, I apologize in advance.

I was at a supermarket few weeks back and I saw a little girl crying in the middle of the aisle. There were 2 women behind me and I walked right past the child and continued on. One of the women loudly said the following:

"What horrible behaviour! No one helps anymore!".

It stopped me dead in my tracks and I walked back to the woman who said it. I put down my basket and I told her:

"Sweetheart what do you expect me to do?? Help the child? Are you insane?? 1) This child is 2 or 3 years old I will immediately be profiled as a pedophile 2) The child is crying which means I will automatically be profiled for kidnapping and be seen as a pedophile 3) I'm a male between 25 - 35 and will automatically be seen as a criminal rather than someone helping 4) FUCK YOU!!"

I grabbed my basket off the ground and went on my merry way. You want me to help a helpless little child? STOP FUCKING DEMONIZING A WHOLE FUCKING GENDER!


Sorry for the all-caps and vulgarities.. this shit just struck a cord with me.

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[–] iamrage 0 points 23 points (+23|-0) ago 

My family is old school European, which means we help one another quite a lot -- especially strangers.

My dad had one encounter far worse than mine. Luckily at the time I was there with him because the woman thought he was trying to kidnap her young son. I was 14 at the time (back in 2001) and dad and I were shopping at Bunnings. I left my dad to go to the far back to try out a bunch of hammocks they had. After about 15min or so I started hearing a screaming child and some people talking very loudly all the way to the back of the building. I was walking towards all the noise to see what all the hubbub was all about (we've witnessed a few fights in the past).. I was completely shocked to see 3 staff members surrounding my dad while some woman was screaming at him. I quickly ran to my dad while the staff members tried to keep me at bay. I loudly screamed for them to: "Get the fuck out of my way because that is MY DAD!". I started speaking to my dad in our native tongue and asked him WTH was going on? He told me that he picked up a young boy who got lost onto his arm so he could point out where his mom or dad were.. he found his mom alright. He tried to explain all this to the staff members, but they didn't believe him so they called the police.

I repeated what my dad told me to the staff members and the woman while at the same moment the police arrived. Both the staff and myself explained the situation to them while the woman was going full hyperbole with everything. The police saw it was all a load of rubbish (thank god for some sane people). The woman just grabbed her young son, scoffed while screaming profanities at the police and my father and stormed off. The staff members apologized and only 1 of them had the common sense and respect to shake my dad's hand in a physical apology/acknowledgment of the mistake.

Dad and I walked back to the car and for about a solid 2min, after placing his hands on the stirring wheel, he starred blankly through the front window in complete disbelief of what had just happened. Both mom and dad used to help young kids find their parents back in Germany and my own home country in the past, but when we arrived here in Australia... I think this was the first time I saw my dad completely broken about anything considering we went through war in our country.

Sorry for the long read, I just needed to get one last thing off my chest.

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[–] Xzal 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Plot Twist; You was Dad.

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[–] 123_456 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Those women are fucking cunts. Like they can't help?

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[–] iamrage 1 points 11 points (+12|-1) ago  (edited ago)

It's because I saw the crying child and did nothing at all, this is why they said what they said. Quite frankly, if it were the 90s and my parents saw me walk passed the crying child without helping, they'd be very disappointed with me.

Fast forward to 2005, and I quote my mom's words when my dad tried to buy ice cream for some kids: "Don't it's too dangerous". Forty-FUCKING-five years of "we help one another quite a lot -- especially strangers" down the fucking toilet and into the abyss. What the fuck am I left to say here?


Side message:

Feminists, or what ever the fuck you want to call yourselves, if it was your mission to make men appear as demons claps I wholeheartedly would like to congratulate you -- you've won. What you've won is the following: I will never help you nor your children ever again for as long as I draw breath on this Earth. I'll reconsider my stance once you undo the 20 years of damage you have caused.

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[–] lurklurk32 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

i wouldn't have stopped to help either. As soon as you utter one word to that child everyone is going to assume you are trying to lure it into a free candy van.

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I avoid children.

It's not that I don't like children - I think children are the bees knees - but I feel awkward around children due to "stranger danger" and I don't want people to think I'm a "chester molester".

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[–] NikoMyshkin 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

mate your behaviour was completely rational. as much as I (and I'm sure you) empathise with a crying infant, it's never worth destroying your life for. and that's exactly what would happen. there is now no room whatsoever for an adult man to interact with a non-related minor unless in a professional capacity and even then it is extremely risky. the minor has simply to make up a story about abuse and society and police will believe it.

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[–] duannguyen 0 points 51 points (+51|-0) ago 

"Call the police, I gonna tell them you just assaulted me." -- wife

That's not gonna work this time. :) Her mug shot was priceless. The look of disappointment/shock on her face.

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[–] BitchBeCool 0 points 45 points (+45|-0) ago 

But the sad thing is that if the camera were not rolling, she would have likely been correct to assume she had the upper hand, as this is the standard case.

Fuck this woman and so many women like her who want to exploit the credit society gives them by default as the "fairer sex" that can do no wrong. Though I will likely never see it, I would love for feminists to get on their blogs or tweet about this kind of situation, and read this woman the riot act for being another instance that makes people raise an eyebrow of doubt when a woman reports themselves a victim in a dispute.

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 22 points (+22|-0) ago 

Google "women are wonderful syndrome". I experienced it first hand at the hands of my abuser.

Women who abuse often use the police and other male figures as foot soldiers in their campaigns of terror against their victims.

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 19 points (+19|-0) ago 

In America that's all a woman has to do - point at a man and say "he hit me" and it's all over for him.

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[–] Just_A_Human 0 points 14 points (+14|-0) ago 

Guilty until proven innocent.

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[–] songofrebellion 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

I've heard that nearly verbatim. :/

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[–] Girthcontrol 1 points 32 points (+33|-1) ago  (edited ago)

This is why it always pays to be sceptical when a feminist claims that feminism is about men's rights too.

  1. Feminists originally denied that female domestic violence existed.
  2. Then they claimed it was too small to be a problem, and it was "derailing" to bring it up.
  3. MANY still don't think it important enough to lobby against -- and some actively harass those (MRAs, both male and female) who do.

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[–] cbrunos 0 points 13 points (+13|-0) ago 

I remember thinking "Well, I'm going to jail but at least I'll finally get some god damn peace and quiet."

You know a woman's a bitch when you prefer going to jail rather than deal with her shit.

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[–] MGTOW_Xui 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

That's the hardest part to explain to people about your abuse... "why didn't you just leave, why did you stay with her for so long?" Well, it's not like she was abusive from day one, or just changed overnight... she was so sweet and loving for the first few months and then, slowly, ever so slowly, began to turn 180 and change things. By the time you realize what just happened, it's been 2 years and you're looking back on everything as if you were in a dream and not really you.

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[–] lurklurk32 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

After all that you got married again? Even after seeing how much better it was being single? Eeesh

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[–] Just_A_Human 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Some people are worth taking the risk. Some, not most.

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[–] zquad 0 points 15 points (+15|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Call the police, I'm gonna call them and tell them that you just assaulted me

Now why would she know that she can make up a story and the police would believe her? The annoying thing about this that he is fully capable of defending himself. But the legal system has tied his hands behind his back.

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[–] Just_A_Human 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago  (edited ago)

But the legal system has tied his hands behind his back.

Do you think women would be as abusive to men if this weren't the case? If you're going to fight like a man expect to be treated like one.

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[–] MrHighBrow 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

That's why I watch the movie How To Murder Your Wife just in hopes that one day the legal system can figure true equality.

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[–] pepepepepe 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

I refreshed the site probably 20 times trying to whitelist enough CDNs and miscellaneous websites in uMatrix to get the video playing. Then I gave up and turned it off.

The video you are trying to watch is currently unavailable. Please check back soon.

NERD RAGE REACHING CRITICAL LEVELS

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[–] YourApostrophe 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Here's a link to it on youtube, which is a better source since that player has a seek bar and you can skip the moron news reporter's nonsense. It's an extremely short clip anyway though (especially without the newscaster's pontificating) and the assault is not as obvious as the title might lead you to believe.

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[–] njdss4 1 points 10 points (+11|-1) ago 

This is the society we live in. People believe the woman based solely on her word and nothing else, and won't believe the man unless he has irrefutable video evidence. Fuck this feminist bullshit. This is NOT equality.

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