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[–] Doomking_Grimlock 4 points 72 points (+76|-4) ago 

Count me in that 70%. Nothing I've ever seen of marriage makes it seem even a little worthwhile. So you marry some woman because you're drunk or in love or whatever, you pip out a couple of kids with her, and then what? She divorces you once they're safely in college (or worse, when they're old enough to be coerced into going with her), and she takes you for all you're worth.

Meanwhile, she'll lie, spew negative shit about you behind your back, turn your kids against you, and spend the rest of your life fucking you for every penny she can get.

Marriage? Please, I'd rather take a beating with a brick.

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[–] sumguy 15 points 24 points (+39|-15) ago 

That, my friend, is 100% a man picking the wrong woman.

I'm married, have been for 11 years and with my wife for 15. No kids (I knew I didn't want any from the time I was 13~14, hasn't changed in nearly 3 decades, not even budged), and we discussed that while dating. She also didn't want kids... Check. No real reason for my wife to Want to divorce me, she's the bread-winner bringing home all the money while I provide other services (I do 99.9% of the cooking, cleaning, 100% of the vehicle and home maintenance, etc... I take care of her physical and emotional needs, she provides the money). Since I consider her quite attractive, and our sex life has Always been better than anything I had while single, we're happy on an intimate level.

There is ZERO negativity, no lies, just a happy, healthy, loving relationship. The way it's Supposed to be when the guy isn't a complete fucking moron when it comes to picking a girl to spend their life with.

As for the positives? Cheaper taxes, cheaper insurance, untaxed retirement/death benefits (being able to roll over IRA type accounts without penalty), social security benefits for widowers, etc... There are a significant number of legal benefits that all add up to retaining more earnings. Other benefits (pooling buying power) can be done outside of legal marriage.

There is a silent majority of married who are quite happy with their situation, deal with no abuse, no lies, no poison, and no threats over money. It's all in picking the right person....

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[–] theoceansinthestreet 2 points 48 points (+50|-2) ago 

You're just describing a good relationship, not making an argument for marriage. Your relationship would exist with or without the marital contract.

The point is that many people could think the exact same thing you do! Until they get a high paying job and their wife suddenly has her "I want to fuck other people" phase. Things change. People change. Why take the risk?

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[–] Namrok 1 points 39 points (+40|-1) ago 

I hate that "It's the man's fault for picking the wrong woman" answer. First of all, people change. Not always for the better. The right woman can easily become the wrong woman. Second, imagine if it was perfectly legal to beat and rape your wife, and people just said to women "Geez, looks like you picked the wrong man. My man is great."

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[–] Bunny_Pope 0 points 12 points (+12|-0) ago 

Why take the chance though? Why not just be in a relationship without signing a government contract, which almost directly states that the woman is going to get the better deal if either of you backs out?

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[–] Batmang 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

You're in a very rare marriage where the woman is the sole breadwinner. Most marriages aren't like yours

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[–] Porphyrogennetos 0 points 14 points (+14|-0) ago 

Marriage? Please, I'd rather take a beating with a brick.

That's not an equal trade off at all!

Once you're beaten with the brick, it's over forever!

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[–] Doomking_Grimlock 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Hey, I might even survive it!