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[–] PandoraTheFirst 6 points 2 points (+8|-6) ago 

I'm sorry, I don't see this article just blaming men for everything. I see it pointing out a number of issues including stress, children, fatigue AND relationship issues. And since a relationship involves more than one person, the "blame" for that does not necessarily belong solely to the man.

Besides that, yes, I agree. Nobody's psychic. It would be nice if women always felt free to just say what they really want from their partner. But, you we're not raised that way, right? We're raised to pretend we never even think about sex, until we do actually have sex, and then we're expected to suddenly act like porn stars in bed, because that's what guys think is real. (Guys with not much life experience, anyway. Which is most of them when you're both 20 or whatever.) And, as women, if our sex life doesn't actually make us happy, we're afraid to say anything because society says if the guy is happy, we should also be happy, so this means there's something wrong with us, oh no! So, yeah, some women are going to be a bit messed up about sex and not understand why they're not always into it like they're "supposed" to be. And yes, they're often afraid to talk about it.

This pill will not help very many women. It's just an antidepressant. It might help if the person taking it also happens to be clinically depressed, and low libido is a symptom of the depression.

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[–] zambeezy 2 points 8 points (+10|-2) ago 

We're raised to pretend we never even think about sex, until we do actually have sex, and then we're expected to suddenly act like porn stars in bed, because that's what guys think is real

Same thing goes for guys. We're expected to have 8 foot cocks that fill every last nook and cranny and not even think about cumming until the girl has already had 1500 orgasms and only then may we cum.

society says if the guy is happy, we should also be happy

Nobody says this.

they're often afraid to talk about it.

Their problem, not anyone else's

This pill will not help very many women

How all-knowing of you!

You're saying you don't see the article as blaming men for everything and in the same comment you're basically saying that men are the cause because we have unrealistic expectations and "society" is telling you to shut the fuck up. Neither of those things is true. The mental gymnastics you're doing must be absolutely exhausting. Keep spinning that hamster wheel

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[–] PandoraTheFirst 5 points -2 points (+3|-5) ago  (edited ago)

I really think you're just looking for offense where none is actually being given. But anyway...

You're saying you don't see the article as blaming men for everything and in the same comment you're basically saying that men are the cause because we have unrealistic expectations

These unrealistic expectations don't come out of nowhere, and I didn't say that they do. I don't blame men just for having these expectations. As you pointed out, society sends men erroneous messages about sex, too. Is it any wonder they think real sex should be a like a porn movie? I don't think it's surprising.

Their problem, not anyone else's

I'm not sure how this attitude would help a woman feel more inclined to talk about it. Look, I get it that if she doesn't say something, you (general "you" here, not you, specifically) can't be expected to read her mind. But on the other hand, your partner knows whether you generally care about her feelings or not. If your attitude says "not," this this partly how couples get into this cycle of one person being dissatisfied, not saying anything about it, getting mad because the person doesn't just read their mind, the other one feeling unfairly attacked, and around and around...

You're saying you don't see the article as blaming men for everything and in the same comment you're basically saying that men are the cause because we have unrealistic expectations and "society" is telling you to shut the fuck up.

Last time I checked, women were part of society, too. So, how can I just be blaming men here? Actually, as I was writing that post, I was partly thinking about all the mothers out there who fail their daughters by not discussing these things with them before they go out into the world.