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[–] BrapHogApologist 0 points 28 points (+28|-0) ago 

  1. Your friend has almost certainly cheated. If not, soon will.
  2. Seems like you're orbiting this girl hard, might want to assess your friendship. But whatever, I don't know the history, I'll assume good intentions and not creepy friend zone shit.
  3. If you really want to help their marriage you need to tell your friend to come home and shame her for not taking her marriage seriously. Talk really bad about sluts, and make her understand men just use them to cum, then leave. Make her realize if she goes down this path, the only thing that will be more vast than the emptiness inside her is the Costco wine section.
  4. Talk to beta husband and let him know he needs to step it up. Give him a copy of Corey Wayne's How to be a 3% Man. It's easy to digest, and really has a lot of great advice. Mostly common sense for any right leaning man, but some teachable topics with good reminders for men. It's easy in a relationship to lose focus and get comfortable. I know the book really made me realize I was slipping up as a boyfriend, and just getting lazy. Definitely gave me a kick in the ass to make my relationship as fun and exciting as it was in the very beginning when everything was new. And Corey was right, it made my relationship stronger, made my gf happier, and it was simply more fun to be in the relationship.
  5. Understand that your friend probably already cheated.

Good luck

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[–] albatrosv15 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago  (edited ago)

@OP --> 1. and 5.

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[–] Trasheconomy [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

  1. Yeah I didn’t really factor this much but from what she’s told me this all but confirmed. And if not completely physical (which I could see her avoiding mentioning to me to come off as less of a fucking whore) then absolutely emotionally to someone else.

  2. Maybe when I first met her way back in high school I had the “this is a girl who will talk to me” kinda crush but very soon after that she’s been off my romantic radar. I have had several girlfriends and a two year one I’m with now who I am very happy with.

As for the rest I really appreciate the advice and it’s something I wanna take with me but this whole deal is kinda said and gone. Also, I mentioned elsewhere in this thread it’s not really my problem to fix. Like I don’t have any plans on fucking her and the husband I could care less about I only know him because of her. It’s more like, I wanted to share a personal story that’s just- TOO real from all the shit we see elsewhere in society. But thanks for the comment I really do appreciate it.

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[–] Momo_Applebach 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Eh, it's not your fault. It's a combination of bad factors. She's a big enough idiot to go off volunteering for a year when she's just gotten married. She's a big enough idiot to use that as an excuse to cheat when she just got married. Her husband is a big enough idiot to not put his foot down about any of this.

Sure, it wasn't the best suggestion to make, but I get bad advice from my friends all the time and I fucking ignore it lmao.

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[–] CameraCode 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Also, I mentioned elsewhere in this thread it’s not really my problem to fix.

This is a terrible attitude to have. She is your friend, right? Don't you care about your friends? You don't have to save the marriage (that may already be dead), but you have an obligation to get your friend on a better path. She is going to be a divorced woman who spends her time doing volunteer service programs and "looking for adventure". She is going to die bitter and alone without a husband or children if she keeps this up. Are you upset with the state of the clown world? This is your opportunity to fix it. None of us can stand idlely by.

Maybe read some of Empress' stuff or ask her for advice as well, she has good advice for women.