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[–] monkey-doodoo 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

do you. don't worry about everyone else. you made mealthy decisions for you and not them. your family loves you but worries or has their own issues. when i started weightlifting i had fam peeps worried about me. don't lift too heavy you will look like a dude, blah, blah. i dialed back a bit with what i do and let them ease in to it. numbers tend to scare ppl for some reason. as time went by they got better with it. and, no i am not a girly girl but i am not a dude either! they are fine now and are actually interested.

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[–] Podapati 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Congrats!!! Family is weird... I told my mom that my goal weight is 145. (I'm 5'4", F, 195 and going down!) She freaked out, saying: " What??? 145 is so fat! How big are you???"

She is 110, btw... Yeah. Don't sweat it, just do what you know is best for your health and sanity. We will be cheering you on!!

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[–] TinyTinaTrumpsAll [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Thanks :) .. yeah family is weird lol. That sounds like my mom (she was amazed when I told her how fat I'd gotten). Good luck with your progress!

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[–] TheKraken 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I'm not an authority on but maybe it's projecting? If you family is a little more heavyset they could see themselves in you (the old you) and you changing that being a good thing would in turn make them staying the same weight look worse.

That or maybe they honestly don't understand weight or weight loss. When you just hear numbers and can't visualize what it looks like it can seen extreme (or not that extraordinary on the flip side of things as well).

But as someone else said, family is weird. In the end just do what you know works for ya!

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[–] TinyTinaTrumpsAll [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I think it's mainly that they don't know how a healthy diet works, or what a healthy lifestyle looks like, and the numbers thing. My husband comes from an overweight family, and my grandparents are both overweight as well. They're the ones who seem to have the hardest time understanding my goals. I'm definitely going to stick with it and go to whatever weight I believe is best for me, but I still wish they supported me. It was nice when I could gush to them about my progress or my workout that day.

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[–] TheKraken 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I guess maybe the continuous gushing makes it feel like you are obsessive and maybe they think you're just not going to stop until you're see through? I guess it's just misplaced concern but at least it's out of the kindness of their hearts, right?

But again that support, especially with family, is really important so I can completely understand how it can be disheartening.

But hey you got your husband and you got us so at least you're not/never alone :)