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[–] NoTrueScotsman 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I agree that you shouldn't send money. Even if she is totally genuine and wants to come marry you today, 3 years is a really, really long time to be apart. Even barring actual catastrophe, or her turning out to be some kind of crazy liar (it happens more than you think), the odds of everything working out perfectly are still not great.

Maybe she could look into carpooling with a friend who has a car and split some of the gas/parking costs? Depending on how far it is, bicycling could be an option, too.


[–] KateHikes69 [S] 0 points 0 points (+0|-0) ago 

She's actually the one who has said she wants no financial help from me. She told me she'd pay for the plane ticket here and her other expenses when it comes to applying for VISAs or citizenship papers. So that's why I trust when she says she wants to be with me. She hasn't asked for money once over the years. Not a once.


[–] Hand_of_Node 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Take this as you will, but it sounds like you're wanting this to happen a lot more than she is. You read those "heartwarming" stories on social media about these remote relationships working out, but it's not the common result. Go meet her and spend some time together before going all in.