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[–] NoTrueScotsman 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

So, she wants a family, but wants to go to school and have a career... So, the government will raise your children?

She feels like she's in danger, but she's not willing to pay for a car/parking to greatly reduce that danger?

She doesn't sound very traditional, or very smart from this. Either that, or she is scamming you. You're better off finding a girl where you live.

[–] KateHikes69 [S] 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

I hear you on the first point. She cant afford a car until she starts this new job though and I'm not sending money.

[–] NoTrueScotsman 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

I agree that you shouldn't send money. Even if she is totally genuine and wants to come marry you today, 3 years is a really, really long time to be apart. Even barring actual catastrophe, or her turning out to be some kind of crazy liar (it happens more than you think), the odds of everything working out perfectly are still not great.

Maybe she could look into carpooling with a friend who has a car and split some of the gas/parking costs? Depending on how far it is, bicycling could be an option, too.