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Accept that there will be times when you're sad and times where your happy.
Try to find things that make you happy and do them. This is harder than you think.
Some things may not be as you want them to be. Change what you can for the better in your life. The others can't be helped so don't worry.
Challenge yourself on something you really want but are not sure you can achieve.
Discipline yourself to finish your tasks, the only real person motivating you is yourself.
That's all I got...
Edit: not everyone is happy all the time.
Edit 2: Don't use social media between the hours of 9 and 5. Use that time to develop your skill/trade/practice. Social media will still be there after 5 and it won't have changed.
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I agree. Happiness will ebb and flow regardless of your efforts to maintain it, but for me, overly concerning myself about my dissatisfaction tends to reinforce it. I'm not saying to stop trying to be happy, but accept that it's normal for it to come and go, and tell yourself that it's not gone forever. The tide is out, but it will return. Try to find ways to make the best of the state that you're in. If you can't manage to do what you want to do most, try to find activities that you can do even if they're not ideal. And if nothing else, exert some mental effort to more fully appreciate and enjoy the rest and relaxation of doing nothing while you wait for the motivation to do something. Best of luck to you! :-)
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Further to my comment, Story Time!
I used to suffer from depression. I exercised regularly ate properly and had awesome friends. But something always niggled at my mind that made me unhappy. I graduated with a shit bachelor's degree to pick up work as a shop clerk. I was upset with myself as I knew I had so much more potential.
I managed to pull together the resources with the help of my family and now I'm in the middle of studying a PhD. I'm greatly enjoying the challenges it provides and I am very aware of the habits that I sometimes need help with to break. (I set my router to cut off my link to the web otherwise I have a tendency to be online till the early hours of the morning, which is my worst habit.)
I never got help with my depression for the simple reason that I believed the sadness was a psychological condition that can't be treated by medicating or meditating. That was like trying to tape up a leak on a battleship. I had to look at the real problem and be frank with myself, that I wasn't satisfied with where I was and that I had so much more worth than I was giving. Retail work may work for some people but I saw it as a slow death, where some 40 years later I'd still be there.
The change wasn't easy, I had to quit my job, move in with my parents and start a new job in a new location, away from a lot of my good friends. That was step 1 for me. Step 2 was to get back into a position where someone would be confident in my ability to achieve, so I started a 1 year masters. Regardless of cost for me, knowledge is always a good investment. I managed to move withing my current job and it helped pay the bills as a part time job. It was tough but worth it to get to where I am now.
After graduating my masters I started to fall into the same old loop as before. I quickly realized this as the depression began to set in again. I had to quit the job and started looking for PhD's full time back at my parents house. I was given the option to transfer back to the previous store, of which I declined. I was not motivated to work there and working would also distract me from what I really wanted to go for. The PhD. So I quitted before even getting on the PhD.
I did feel some hurt towards my dignity in moving in with my parents again but it was for the greater good. The Greater Good. I eventually got a break and got onto an awesome project. I'm determined not to fuck up and to suck up ever bit of information and experience the university seeks to provide.
There has been a lot of moving away from good friends but I met new friends and now my list of good friends is much larger, more diverse. I'm really proud of a few of my new ones too for achievements they've made in their lives too!
This may be an unpopular idea, but have you tried St. John's Wort (SJW)?
I had a similar situation, I started working on a post-grad degree, busted my knee and couldn't exercise, lived alone and rarely had time to do much outside of my studies, started developing anxiety and becoming really depressed. It started off mild, but it really starts to spiral into a darker and darker abyss. SJW really helped take the edge off the depression and anxiety, but it's not a miracle drug. There's also a LONG list of medications it interacts with, so if you're on any meds you should talk to a pharmacist to see if SJW is even appropriate.
It should be noted, it's really more of a band-aid fix...but it could be appropriate as a way to kind of get rid of negative emotions that can be holding you back from doing something you may like. As an analogy: if you're drowning in a pool it won't get you out of the water, but it will act kind of like arm floaties to help you from sinking, you still gotta swim to the edge yourself.
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[–] Plant_Boy 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
Accept that there will be times when you're sad and times where your happy.
Try to find things that make you happy and do them. This is harder than you think.
Some things may not be as you want them to be. Change what you can for the better in your life. The others can't be helped so don't worry.
Challenge yourself on something you really want but are not sure you can achieve.
Discipline yourself to finish your tasks, the only real person motivating you is yourself.
That's all I got...
Edit: not everyone is happy all the time.
Edit 2: Don't use social media between the hours of 9 and 5. Use that time to develop your skill/trade/practice. Social media will still be there after 5 and it won't have changed.
[–] varialus ago (edited ago)
I agree. Happiness will ebb and flow regardless of your efforts to maintain it, but for me, overly concerning myself about my dissatisfaction tends to reinforce it. I'm not saying to stop trying to be happy, but accept that it's normal for it to come and go, and tell yourself that it's not gone forever. The tide is out, but it will return. Try to find ways to make the best of the state that you're in. If you can't manage to do what you want to do most, try to find activities that you can do even if they're not ideal. And if nothing else, exert some mental effort to more fully appreciate and enjoy the rest and relaxation of doing nothing while you wait for the motivation to do something. Best of luck to you! :-)
[–] RipeBanana ago
"Fake it till you make it"
[–] Plant_Boy ago (edited ago)
Further to my comment, Story Time!
I used to suffer from depression. I exercised regularly ate properly and had awesome friends. But something always niggled at my mind that made me unhappy. I graduated with a shit bachelor's degree to pick up work as a shop clerk. I was upset with myself as I knew I had so much more potential.
I managed to pull together the resources with the help of my family and now I'm in the middle of studying a PhD. I'm greatly enjoying the challenges it provides and I am very aware of the habits that I sometimes need help with to break. (I set my router to cut off my link to the web otherwise I have a tendency to be online till the early hours of the morning, which is my worst habit.)
I never got help with my depression for the simple reason that I believed the sadness was a psychological condition that can't be treated by medicating or meditating. That was like trying to tape up a leak on a battleship. I had to look at the real problem and be frank with myself, that I wasn't satisfied with where I was and that I had so much more worth than I was giving. Retail work may work for some people but I saw it as a slow death, where some 40 years later I'd still be there.
The change wasn't easy, I had to quit my job, move in with my parents and start a new job in a new location, away from a lot of my good friends. That was step 1 for me. Step 2 was to get back into a position where someone would be confident in my ability to achieve, so I started a 1 year masters. Regardless of cost for me, knowledge is always a good investment. I managed to move withing my current job and it helped pay the bills as a part time job. It was tough but worth it to get to where I am now.
After graduating my masters I started to fall into the same old loop as before. I quickly realized this as the depression began to set in again. I had to quit the job and started looking for PhD's full time back at my parents house. I was given the option to transfer back to the previous store, of which I declined. I was not motivated to work there and working would also distract me from what I really wanted to go for. The PhD. So I quitted before even getting on the PhD.
I did feel some hurt towards my dignity in moving in with my parents again but it was for the greater good. The Greater Good. I eventually got a break and got onto an awesome project. I'm determined not to fuck up and to suck up ever bit of information and experience the university seeks to provide.
There has been a lot of moving away from good friends but I met new friends and now my list of good friends is much larger, more diverse. I'm really proud of a few of my new ones too for achievements they've made in their lives too!
[–] KanakaHaole ago
This may be an unpopular idea, but have you tried St. John's Wort (SJW)?
I had a similar situation, I started working on a post-grad degree, busted my knee and couldn't exercise, lived alone and rarely had time to do much outside of my studies, started developing anxiety and becoming really depressed. It started off mild, but it really starts to spiral into a darker and darker abyss. SJW really helped take the edge off the depression and anxiety, but it's not a miracle drug. There's also a LONG list of medications it interacts with, so if you're on any meds you should talk to a pharmacist to see if SJW is even appropriate.
It should be noted, it's really more of a band-aid fix...but it could be appropriate as a way to kind of get rid of negative emotions that can be holding you back from doing something you may like. As an analogy: if you're drowning in a pool it won't get you out of the water, but it will act kind of like arm floaties to help you from sinking, you still gotta swim to the edge yourself.
[–] Lootaluck ago
ooh and motivated?
Never mind, I was going to say weed like a metric ton of weed, but the and motivated pretty much kills that