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[–] AOU 1 points 201 points (+202|-1) ago 

Report that ham for sexual harassment.

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[–] TheEnglishShitlady [S] 0 points 73 points (+73|-0) ago 

The trouble is I am quite new (still on my probation period), so I don't want to rock the boat. At this stage it's still laughable, it's patently obvious to everyone why she's making those comments and it only reflects poorly on her not me.

I will however start keeping a log in case things escalate - hams have no problem doxxing people and ruining their lives for expressing an opinion, so maybe it is time they learnt that their words have consequences too.

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[–] BlackBetty 0 points 75 points (+75|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Since you are new, take as many pains as possible to not be alone with her. This will force her to make her disgusting comments in front of other people (providing you with witnesses). Then document them all.

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[–] IIsAShloff 0 points 54 points (+54|-0) ago  (edited ago)

If she tries it again, you could just look at her, horrified and ask her loudly (preferably in front of others) why she thinks that's ok to say to anybody. If you can fake cry for effect, that would certainly add to it. Shame it.

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[–] Grave_Mercy 0 points 25 points (+25|-0) ago 

As a female in a male dominated field, I get that "lets not rock the boat" concern a lot, but if you report the specifics "She mentioned in front of XXXXX that I must have a loose vagina." they'll be on that shit so fast it'll send you reeling. It's at the point where fearing for your position is the last thing you'll need to worry about. Thank god you have witnesses to this shit, what a dumb fat bitch.

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[–] journalistsarelazy 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

Yep, log everything. Make those healthy choices and play it quietly. Just be a sponge for its jibes until you're through probation. Then re-evaluate. You may well find someone senior will notice, if they haven't already. Some companies do an evaluation at the end of probation where they often ask if you have any concerns. I'd raise it then unless you're pushed to do it sooner.

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[–] shitlordicus_prime 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Came here to say this. There's no way that's acceptable in a workplace!

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[–] BlackBetty 1 points 89 points (+90|-1) ago 

Document everything she says to you (dates and time and witnesses) and then go to human resources and tell them that she is creating a hostile work environment. That you are beginning to feel like you don't want to come in to work everyday because you know you will be faced with her derogatory comments about your "size". And that recently she even made a sexually inappropriate and derogatory comment about you in front of a male colleague which was meant to embarrass and shame you.

Demand that something be done.

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[–] hypercat 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

In addition. Don't report until there are a few incidents and witnesses. Then she can say she thought it was a onetime incident and shrugged it off but the harassment became a continuing thing.

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[–] l23r 0 points 17 points (+17|-0) ago 

"I tried to ignore it and be friendly. I was hoping it would stop on it's own. Ireally didn't want to get HR involved, but it just got too much for me to deal with. I feel unsafe coming into work"

Lots of "I" statements and make sure to include the special "safe" word ;)

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[–] deltasly 6 points 8 points (+14|-6) ago 

I agree as a knee-jerk reaction...but keep in mind that long term you may make some workplace enemies doing so.

Not as bad as uppity ladies who report men for being nice, but you'll be "that chick who gets HR involved" to folks.

Of course if this is constant badgering, fuck it you deserve respect.

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[–] BlackBetty 0 points 49 points (+49|-0) ago  (edited ago)

This freak essentially called her a whore. In front of a male colleague and in a pretty disgusting way. Not to mention, it sounds as if this is a course of conduct that is not going to end. In fact, it just escalated. I would not have suggested HR for a first time offense. This is bad.

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[–] Totenglocke 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

Jobs come and go, but wrecking a ham planet's life / career is forever. =)

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[–] l23r 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Also, HR seems to always be full of fats.

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[–] SurgicalShitlord 1 points 37 points (+38|-1) ago 

You're well within grounds to bring her up to HR. This doesn't "border" on sexual harassment; it crossed that line twice with the vagina comment. Document everything ASAP, as @BlackBetty suggested above. Create a paper trail. This won't stop otherwise.

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[–] jennyanydots817 1 points 19 points (+20|-1) ago  (edited ago)

Casually mention how you have a hard time finding tampons because they don't come in size XS.

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[–] FPHrefugee 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

lol you know tampon size has nothing to do with that, and all to do with flow right?

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[–] jennyanydots817 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

Yeah but fatties don't know that. They think the more adipose tissue their body is stuffed with, the more room there is for babies to grow.

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[–] shart_in_a_fat_roll 2 points 3 points (+5|-2) ago 

Guy here. Didn't know, and was happier not knowing.

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[–] journalistsarelazy 1 points 12 points (+13|-1) ago 

So you didn't feel like mentioning the connection between obesity and prolapsed vaginas? No?

Understandable really given you were at work.

I'd print out a few of these and bring it crayons.

https://www.monkeywellbeing.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/05/Colour_me_Veg.pdf

https://www.monkeywellbeing.com/wp-content/uploads/2015/07/Healthy-Eating.pdf

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[–] TheEnglishShitlady [S] 0 points 14 points (+14|-0) ago 

I was very worried those were going to be prolapsed vaginas, thanks for making me laugh!

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[–] journalistsarelazy 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You're welcome! This fat sounds like it likes the belittling approach. Two can play that game.

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[–] FPHrefugee 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

report her for sexual harrassment . That is far beyond appropriate. You may be able to just laugh it off, but not everyone could handle a comment like that, especially in front of male coworkers

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[–] Agrajag_ 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago  (edited ago)

This ham logic is pretty common. I'm on my college's varsity track team and I'm extremely tiny, extremely tall, and have very wide hips so i have a massive thigh gap. While lifting one day, one of the girls on the team (a small fat who has since quit and become a large fat) commented on it and talked for the rest of lifting about how it means I have a loose vag and how she's so glad she doesn't have a thigh gap so that hers is tight. WTF. It's some of the stupidest logic I've ever heard.

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[–] Fierce_skinnybitch 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

It makes my blood boil...

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[–] 4252865? 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Someone should tell them that just because their vaginas are harder to locate under all that fat does not mean their vaginas are tight.

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[–] Warhymn 0 points 10 points (+10|-0) ago 

Wouldn't muscle tone be the primary determiner of loose vs. tight?

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[–] drink_some_water 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Yes. Fat women are actually more likely to have a loose vagina iirc because the fat messes with the muscles and they don't get enough exercise.

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