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[–] thebluelady 2 points -1 points (+1|-2) ago  (edited ago)

1) why do you want to work around fat people if you hate them? this is really confusing to me. i've seen you post a few times about wanting to work at one but it sounds like you'd be miserable because literally all it is is working with fat people!

2) in healthcare, compassion goes a long way. beside manner is important. if you actually want patients to trust and listen to you, you have a better chance of doing that if they feel like you empathize with them. this is part and parcel to effective healthcare. that's why i think this is a strange job for you! a lot of working in healthcare is sitting across from people who know better and being mystified at their stupidity and putting on your healthcare face to try to say, 'that's a common misconception, i understand why you thought that, but this is the truth' or 'well, it looks like this isn't working for you, but i think we can come up with something to help you' vs. setting up a situation where the doctor is viewed as a cruel warden impeding their freedom.

none of this is fat sympathy. i agree with you that they shouldn't need this. but part of working in healthcare is not letting it show on your face when your patients are gross dumbasses killing themselves while you're at work.

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[–] 3237758? 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

There's compassion, and there's "I know how you feel and I understand." Sooo... lie to them? How can you know and understand when you haven't gone through it yourself? What if they call you on your bullshit, what do you follow that up with?

As a professional, your job is to tell people the truth, deal with the problem, and do so professionally and efficiently, not tip toe around someone's fee fees. Besides, we know the fat community demands are totally conflicting and opposing. For every person who doesn't want to be called fat, there's another who demands it, and for the exact same reasons! It is best to steer clear of the mine field that is their feelings and concentrate strictly on their concrete problems in a professional and clinical manner, let them deal with their own feelings when they're hit with cold, hard, scientific facts.

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[–] thebluelady ago 

i know this probably sounds good to you, but there's really nothing that supports this in healthcare. you're trying to make someone trust and listen to you, and this is almost entirely a 'feefees' thing. anyone who works in healthcare can tell you that for every patient who responds well to the cold hard truth there's like ten who are ike, 'that sounds bad but it probably won't happen to me so i'm going to keep smoking and not taking my meds and eating like shit!'

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[–] SUPA_FUPA [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

1) To remind myself that there's so much more to life than just food. I've encountered people in real life who do nothing but talk about food and how it makes them happy. I want to be a medical office manager not a nurse or doc. Plus, these fatties remind me of suicidal people who rather eat themselves to death because they would rather have a "short happy life than a long miserable one". I want to be part of a team that wants to stop this. I could do embassy work for Vietnam in America but I have to live in Vietnam to obtain Vietnamese citizenship first so my dream job there may take long training sessions.

2) I like to have compassion but they must understand that their needs go first even before their feelings. To live is to make sacrifices than to overindulge one's self to death. Suicide is one of the medical topics I find rather interesting; especially if it involves food and obesity which doesn't get reported often enough to make headlines in anything. After all, you don't hear too much about depressed fatties going to buffets alone.