I've been friends with her since high school. Back then, we used to be a little chubby, but still within the normal BMI. I lost around 10-15 pounds in college because I really didn't feel happy with the body I had. She, on the other hand, started packing on the pounds. Today, she is obese. We're the same height, 5'5". I'm 128 pounds, she's 200 pounds.
So anyway, she was diagnosed with PCOS last year when she went to her gynecologist because of irregular periods. Her gynecologist told her to lose weight. She still hasn't lost any weight since then. Yesterday, she told me her periods still aren't normal and I told her to go back to her gynecologist.
She replied, "My mom thinks me being fat is causing all this just because my gynecologist told me to lose weight. Whatever happened to just being happy and healthy?"
"If being fat is messing with your period then you obviously aren't healthy."
She didn't get upset, thankfully, because she's used to me being very blunt when it comes to these things. I gave her some weight loss advice and exercise tips after that. She didn't give me the usual fatlogic, so I hope I made enough of an impression for her to change her hamplanet ways.
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[–] ModelNotWaddle 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago (edited ago)
It's a good idea, but I wouldn't count on fatties to keep up the routine. I tried encouraging my overweight flatmate and friend (we became friends as kids when we were both a normal size. I try not to associate with hams now) to come run with my every morning. All she had was excuses: "I don't feel well when I workout in the morning. My stomach hurts. It's too early. I need my sleep. etc." If she ever does workout, the first thing she thinks about is treating herself ("let's get a fruit smoothie!"- full of sugar and fat ugh).
I'm literally out of bed, done with my workout, showered, done with breakfast, and working on homework by the time she even wakes up in the morning. And all of my classes start after hers. Sorry about the rant. I had to get this out after just a week of living with her again. Plus, she used the genetic excuse the other night, and I've been a bit pissed off about it.
[–] erythropoetin [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
I'll ask her to play some badminton this weekend.
[–] Portlicide 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
I wouldn't suggest running if she's @ 200 lbs. Running with that much body weight will probably injure her knees, making it impossible to commit to exercise and discourage her. Throwing together some meal plans, a beginner's lifting routine, and advocating 30 mins on an elliptical 4-5x a week, ramping up the intensity as her cardiovascular improves is the best bet. Habituation around meal planning was the hardest part for me. Getting organized, prepping food, carrying a cooler/lunchbox, etc. is a pain in the ass until it becomes a habit.
If It Fits Your Macros is a decent place to start for dietary changes. The sugar cravings, etc. will pass, but she needs to be willing to suck it up for the first few days. And over the long haul, her body will freak the fuck out and try to hold on to her fat stores via increased metabolic efficiency, which means fewer calories for the same weight. Tracking the diet is key here. SLOWLY refeeding at plateaus can help bust them, but losing that much weight requires re-programming your body's hormonal responses via diet manipulation.
[–] erythropoetin [S] ago
Thanks for the advice. I really appreciate it. :)
[–] shdwghst457 ago
I've offered to my roommate that I would walk instead of run if she wanted to join. "But I'm already comfy (watching netflix)."