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[–] eatstars 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

I always hope that these fats who manage to live in fantasy their whole lives realize that their deaths were completely brought on by their own actions in that last moment. I hope they realize what they did to themselves. I hope they suffer a tenth as much as the trouble they created in their sphere of disaster

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[–] ForestsAndTrees 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago  (edited ago)

I've been around a fair amount of people with serious health issues. And yeah, the people in that position usually have a pretty horrible experience dying. And I know that sounds odd. Like how does anyone 'not' have a horrible time dying. But when you've had a really well lived life, one you're proud of, it cushions the blow to a pretty heavy extent. Not for everyone. But a lot of people. Good or bad, it tends to be those left behind that really start to occupy your thoughts.

And that's the thing about lifestyle related deaths. You see the pain in your loved one's eyes and you know without a doubt that you chose that for them. That they know it too. It's different when it's something that you fought against with them by your side. There's sadness there obviously. And pain. But it's the end of a long fight driven forward by love and appreciation of life. It removes some of the sting of death when everyone was fighting against it together. It's the difference between one person choosing the pain of mourning for his loved ones. And loved ones choosing life and fighting for it. Even if it's not a fight that can be won. Even if coming into it the odds are a million to one. It's the fight itself that really makes the difference at the end.

In a lot of ways it makes it a little easier when one has fought against impossible odds. The people left behind can look at the experience and think "they loved me enough to endure and fight against this for my sake". That love makes it hurt. But it also helps one heal from the loss. It's different when choices made from selfishness caused the death. Harder for the person dying because it's always the elephant in the room. And most are VERY conscious of it. Ironically too in being aware of how much pain they're causing their loved ones they tend to lash out more rather than less.

Dying isn't exactly super fun for anyone. But much of the emotion of the experience comes from the life you led. It's what brings people of various types to your side. It's what you see reflected when you look them in the eye. And in a very real way it's an afterlife that one gets to be aware of before death. Because we 'know' what of us will be held in people's hearts after we're gone. How our experiences with people will shape them and their lives when they're alive but we've gone. When you've fought for life you're often celebrated by life and the living when you're gone. When you fought for corruption your memory instead rots in a living hell of your own creation.

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[–] ceasedmerrymaking 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Well said. That is poignant and very true.

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[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I'm going to start copying and pasting and saving everything you write.

You always remind me of what's really important.

Thank you for that.