So I live in NYC and I have a few relatively shitlordy friends I like to hang out with. That said, one of them wasn’t nearly as shitlordy as I thought. She invited this fat fuck to dinner with four of us, so five total, and the hog “forgot its card” at a nice Italian restaurant, forcing the rest of us to pay for its extra two apps it horked down by itself and for the dessert it got when everyone else clearly wanted to go home. My (now former) friend apologized to everyone for her beast friend ditching us all to split its bill along with our own, but what the fuck. The obeast pulled the ol’ pretend-to-go-to-the-bathroom-but-actually-ditch play. I am disappointed in my former friend and also really irritated that I had to pay an extra $60 bc that greasy bitch ditched. I don’t expect to get it back but we’ve all informed our pig enabling friend that we need to be reimbursed before she joins us again, and that she’s not allowed to invite anyone we haven’t met before.
Note: I’m definitely not a pig sympathizer and once Hamantha joined we made it clear we were all paying for our own stuff, but the bitch dined and ditched on us and my (again, former) friend can not afford to pay for both herself and Hamantha so we all ate it so she can afford food the rest of the month. Bad? Yes. But I think she can learn and I didn’t want to let her overdraft because she’s a fucking idiot about trusting people.
EDIT: cool cool cool this bitch didn’t know she was in the group chat when she said I lost my baby this fall bc I was too skinny
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[–] DorothyMantooth 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
That is exactly how I see it, though I've never expressed it so well myself. And I absolutely think that when you find people who respond the way you do to life's little emergencies, that's a good way to judge their character and how well you'll "mesh" as friends--especially people who can take a situation in which you might have felt awful but instead they made you feel okay or even good about it. Those are good people. Someone who responds that way is someone you can trust, IMO, whereas people who make you feel bad about a mistake or use it as an excuse to snipe at you are people you cannot (assuming you responded the way you did, and not like the pig in your story who gorged herself and then pretended to need the bathroom).
You never know what someone is going through or what kind of day they've had. When I'm in a bad mood I sometimes challenge myself to be as nice as possible to other people, as patient with them as possible--not only because I just prefer to be that sort of person, but because it often puts me in a better mood, too. Lol, of course, this is all getting far too kind and gentle for fph. :-) {{hug}}