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[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 27 points (+27|-0) ago 

They want to be unique, which is fair enough. But they are too lazy to be unique in a way that requires any effort. The "other girls" who they see as so boring and plain may look that way on first impressions, but get to know them, and I bet they have something unique that is also interesting. What makes someone special in a real way is when you talk to them and find they have a hidden passion for an oddball or unexpected subject or they have a niche, skilled hobby and suddenly there is an extra dimension to them that makes them different. All these people for whom their only characteristic is their tattoos or their coloured hair will usually be absolutely vapid, empty people with nothing whatsoever in their brains because 90% of the time they chose these characteristics to avoid developing real ones. I guarantee not a single one of these people who are so "quirky" and "weird" could hold a conversation about anything that isn't reality TV, fast food, or gossip.

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[–] DorothyMantooth 1 point 2 points (+3|-1) ago 

I agree, totally.

Of course, you also have the bitches like this who go out of their way to cultivate one "weird" interest--whether it's genuinely weird or not (usually not--even their weird stuff tends to be really generic), and whether it genuinely interests them or not. Like, they'll decide to be really into Baltic death art or something (I just made that up), and spend a few days on the internet reading about it and downloading pictures to print & hang or occasionally post on their Instas to prove how deep and unusual they are, even though in their day-to-day life they don't think about or care about it at all. Or they'll claim to love Enrico Caruso, or spiders, or Victorian momento mori jewelry, or Captain Carrot comics from the 80s, and make a big deal about it to strangers because they think it makes them seem intellectual and fascinating. So they might be able to hold a conversation about one of those topics, but your point still stands: they are essentially shallow, and have nothing to add to adult discourse or the world in general.

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[–] 15106185? 1 point 1 point (+2|-1) ago  (edited ago)

I actually meet truly unique women from time to time, but they're the EXTREME MINORITY.

One in her 40s is a competitive dragon-boater (like national level gold medal shit) and an equestrian, who developed a program of physical fitness (weight training) to temporarily improve the quality of life for terminal cancer patients.

One in her late 20s is a three-gun shooter and an audio engineer as a hobby - played multiple musical instruments. Works in the video game industry.

One's a senior citizen now, and she was a former nun who became a pioneer of the computer industry in the 1960s, got a pilots license, then ran for national-level political office multiple times when she retired. She's in her 80s and still lifts weights in the gym.

The last one is in her 40s, was in the military with me. Became a private military contractor for a while, learned six or seven languages in that time. She took all her money, bought investment property, and because she had passive income she founded an NGO. She went to rural Afghanistan to teach English.

And so - out of the hundreds (possibly thousands) that I've met, those four are pretty much the only "unique" ones I've ever encountered so far.

All are fit. None are fat. I don't think that's a coincidence.