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[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
It wasn't as sentimental as I thought it would be...I'm not one for tears, generally. But I was surprised to discover that we are already at that point in her life. I knew it'd be soon; her figure is changing. I was more excited about it than she was; it was such a rite of passage for me when I got mine. I was a bit older than she was when I got mine and I was pretty stoked, and my mom bought me a little gift in celebration. I thought that's how it would go down but she was markedly less excited about the whole thing. lol Oh well.
Boy puberty is easier IMO. He is getting all gangly and tall, his voice is cracking like crazy, and he's definitely into that "obnoxious early teenage boy" stage where they talk super loud and make retarded jokes and never really know when to quit. He's very proud of his fuzzy upper lip. lol But he's far less moody than his sister. Girls are a handful...mood swings, body changes requiring shopping trips for embarrassingly personal things (which she hates), self-consciousness, and so much fuckin' drama sometimes. Even with all that, though, I really love this stage - they're young enough to still think I'm cool but old enough that they can be really helpful around the house, and we can have much deeper conversations about life, and they're becoming such interesting people. I'm still mom but now there are more moments where we're also really good friends just enjoying each other's company and I love that.
[–] DorothyMantooth ago
Ah, see, mine was so late, and my mom wasn't living with us anymore, so I didn't tell anyone; I didn't even tell her until months later when she asked me about it. I made kind of a fuss over my girls, but neither of them (or my sd, either) really wanted much of a fuss so we limited it to hugs and extra cuddles and such.
And oh, yes, the girly nonsense. I do dislike the girly nonsense. But oh well, we get what we're given, right? And I'm glad I'm not the only one who sometimes has those "We're like really good friends," moments; I've always hated those "My daughter is my best friend" people but it does sometimes feel that way.
[–] Sarcastatron_9000 ago
For me it's the other way around - "I'm your parent, NOT your friend!" doesn't seem the healthiest approach either. And then they wonder why their teenager won't ever talk to them about anything...maybe because they need a friend and you've made it clear that's not who you are? I think it's good to be both but to know when they need a friend and when they need a parent.