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[–] thinANDintelligent 0 points 9 points (+9|-0) ago 

Currently being excluded at work by my fat teammates. Not so much from social things like after work stuff, because who cares about that? But they are spreading rumors about me, some of which have reached my manager and I'm finding it hard to combat as the four of them are backing up their lies. So it's my word against theirs.

It's gotten to the point where they don't pass on vital information to me, I look like the eejit who doesn't know what she is doing or what is going on and then they collude to say things like "I'm not sure if there's something going on in her personal life or what, because we told her such and such a thing yesterday And you're saying that she hasn't it done and pretended not to know what you were talking about?! That doesn't seem like her. I would have thought she was reliable."

Honestly, I have no idea how to cope in this situation. I'm an adult. They are adults. There shouldn't be any bullying in our workspace. And why? Because I do my work instead of going for endless cups of coffee with them? Or I take my lunch break and not an extra 15 minutes on top of it?! Fats are horrible people and bullying is all they are good at.

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[–] jeffjeff 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Firstly, keep a written log of each occasion where, for example, they claim to have told you something but didn't do so. This will help support you if you decide to raise a future grievance, or if a complaint is made about you or your work. I would also try to have an informal chat with your boss and put it politely that there seems to be a communication breakdown and if they have any important tasks request they ask you directly rather than relying on the fats (not) passing on the request. This should ensure that your manager will be aware where the problem lies and that there is no issue with your performance.

I would be very careful about raising any formal grievances with management/HR as even if it is determined that you're not at fault you may still be seen as "not a team player" or unwilling/unable to get on with your colleagues. As it's 4 against 1 they may think it easier to let you go to get a harmonious team rather than sort of the 4 problem employees. It's unfair I know but in the end your management will be looking to resolve the situation with the least amount of disruption even if it's not the 'right' thing to do. Wish you the best of luck in getting it resolved but if you can't it may be worth looking to move on. You spend a huge part of your life at work and if it's an unpleasant environment it can really affect you.

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[–] thinANDintelligent 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

as even if it is determined that you're not at fault you may still be seen as "not a team player" or unwilling/unable to get on with your colleagues.

Well, you were spot on there. In a more severe way than I anticipated. We have a monthly reporting deadline for our results at work and it appears that samples for my section weren't tested. Yet they were all clumped together in the back of the fridge, despite them all arriving on different dates. I've now effectively been demoted. Although with the same pay, so it's more humiliating than anything else.

A permanent job is like gold dust here. I'm going to stick it out until we draw down our mortgage and then I'm definitely taking your advice and leaving. I can only imagine the sort of reference I would get though, considering I'm over qualified for the task I've just been demoted from.

And throughout this humiliation I was told.how important it was to be a team player. God only knows what has been said about me behind my back. I've never been anything but pleasant and respectful to their oversized faces...

Looking forward to seeing how they cope with me removed from that role. The work won't disappear, idiots.

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[–] AnglaMommy [S] 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Urgh, it’s infuriating when the bullying interferes with your work. I have no advice for your situation sadly, other than to possibly report it to HR. Though their competence in situations like these is often lacking.

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[–] theepilepticferret 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

You can go to HR but from my experience in a very similar situation, they won't do fuck all about it. What I wish I had done was hire an attourney before I quit. Or after even. If at all possible, I'd suggest you start looking for another job outside that toxic environment.

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[–] Neinlife 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

not just you. goin thru the same shit at work. fat bitch and her low orbit goblin colluding against me. i dont take 20 fuckin smoke breaks a day, but if im in another office helping another co worker for 5 minutes ill get a call from an off site boss asking where i have been all day.

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[–] thinANDintelligent 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Exactly. Two of them are salty because they’ve been there longer than me and their contracts are ending - the other two are permanent and stirred shit by telling them that I am also permanent. I started recently enough and I wasn’t allowed to do much until I had done all of the internal training, so I spent time shadowing them and generally lending a hand. It sped up my training, at least. Now I have my own work to do I can’t help them and I think that’s what started it. They got used to having someone to do the shit work.

I was called in to my managers office recently and was told I need to take over a particular instrument, I was trained and they need to free up the male small fat. I was so confused. I told her I’d taken over that instrument last October. And, I shit you not, she told me I needed to stop bothering the small fat for help because he has his own work to get through. Then it clicked. He hasn’t done his work and has privately blamed the amount of time he has spent helping me. When I don’t see him from one end of the day to the next. He made out he was practically doing my job for me. I had no idea how to react because he is technically my superior, even though we are on the same pay grade. He’s been there years longer so she trusts him... it’s just a shit situation.

I hope things get better in your situation. It’s so unfair, it makes it difficult to drag myself into work. I hope you are better at dealing with it than I am!

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[–] Tacohell 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

It's absolutely true. One of my good friends who is very slim and petite was absolutely tormented by fats in high school. They called her Skeletor and made rumors that she gave her boyfriend at the time a BJ in the bleachers. It wasn't only her, either - it seemed like any beautiful girl that was very slim was picked on for being 'anorexic' much more than any fat shaming I ever saw. It doesn't matter anyway because most people from high school have gotten obnoxiously obese and it's hilarious when you encounter them in real life and realize social media can't hide the real thing!

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[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Fats are the worst. They are miserable and their jealousy seeks no boundaries. They love to take it out on those they know are better then them.

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[–] iheartmypuppy 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

The good news is past young adulthood, they’re usually too sick to try and bully

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[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 1 points (+1|-0) ago 

Same for me, though I didn't realise it until I left school. I was not a shitlady at the time. Looking back, it's easy to see how it was also the fatties and they were just trying to feel not pathetic for once. In the long run, I win because I am not fat.

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[–] caesah 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Yeah I've noticed that, some of my electives are like 70-80% female and there's usually a fit/attractive girl who seems anti-social or out of the main group or that I hear is a bitch or something. Most of the ones I've met ended up being extremely sweet.

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