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[–] slendermiddleage 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Yes, leave the weight aspect out of it and make it about you. "It just seems to take longer somehow when we work together. My family's been laying on the guilt lately, so I'm trying to get home earlier." Or something similar that puts the blame on you in a way she can't really get mad about. Especially if SHE'S already bringing family into it to try to make YOU feel guilty.

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[–] SleepyCicada [S] ago 

Yes, that’s good. I have to keep her weight or even her personally out of it somehow. Something along the lines of, ‘I find that we are such a relaxed team, we take our time when we work together. Time flies when you’re having fun, eh?’ And then add the family piece.

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[–] Kraeik ago 

why sugar coat it? there is no HR for her to complain to either.... just let her feelings get hurt.

Tell her that when we work together I end up having to do everything and it takes me twice as long to finish and I don't want to spend all night here.

boom.

You are under no obligation to use her, right, so just call it like it is. If you make up something else then you will never resolve this and you will ALWAYS be in this situation.