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[–] Carsandsarcasm 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

I think you need to take a hard line with this guy. What he has brought to your house is not normal or acceptable. Friendship does not include allowing a roach infestation, smell, litter, and general unnecessary fuckery. If this guy gave half a shit about you, he would not do any of this. If this guy gave a quarter of a shit about you, he would do simple shit like clean his plates and shower. If anything from other fatmate stories is true, this guy is not leaving either. He will stay and leech off you for as long as you allow it. He's not going to get a job and he's not going to learn to contribute to the household.

You should be honest with him and draw these boundaries. It's your house and so you get to do that. Asking for basic hygiene is not unreasonable except that it's unreasonable that you should have to ask. If he's not willing to change, you have to make it clear that he can't stay. Don't let yourself be bullied into tolerating such nonsense.

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[–] GinForBreakfast [S] 0 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago 

Thanks for the tips. When he doesn't even recognize his behavior problems as problems, it's tough to make him comprehend I expect him to do something about them.