Just a short rant, I'm sorry if my writing is bad, but I just got done being screamed at and I am livid.
A pretty awful run of bad luck has us living with my entitled, fat sister in law at the moment. She's not at the spherical obeast point, but like a deformed melting pear. Maybe 170 at 5'5"? And despite being fat now she has always just been a terrible entity all around. As a disheveled, potbellied, 'wearing blingy teenager garb three sizes too small', middle aged adult she's kept the mentality of the bitchy, gold-digging high school girl she was who got by in life by using her body to bribe everyone else to do shit for her. And if anything goes wrong in her life it's the world against her instead of being her own damn fault. She really thinks she's hot shit and can manipulate anyone she meets into doing or giving her anything (she has actually bragged to me about this on multiple occasions). Any way, this is something I would NEVER have done otherwise, but we really had no other options. Not even a car to live out of. She has been more than delighted to use every possible opportunity in our low to take advantage of us at every turn and there's been many clashes because I don't like being used. Especially for ungrateful adult brats that never learned to grow up.
Today's fight was about the cleaning. Now, I had no issue helping (keyword here is 'helping') her around her house before in return for giving a place to stay as we get on our feet, but after scrubbing this pigstye top to bottom over and over and over by myself just to watch her completely trash it the same day I have just stopped. If she brings it up I tell her I will help and ask what she wants to clean then she'll say "Forget it. I'm tired." I was trying to get a point across to her. My husband and I are not often home or when we are we're shut in our room so we don't live in it like she does.
Ontop of being ungrateful for me cleaning for her, she began to assume I was going to continue to just clean up her trash trail all day every day and so now rarely cleans anything herself. Some times it feels like she purposefully dumps her crap right where she sits (there's a mountain of clothes in the bathroom, the hall, right by the damn front door, and by her washer, soda bottles and wrappers tucked into her sofa, dishes all over the living room and covering half the kitchen...things like that). When she does clean it will only be after her piles of shit have started to rot and grow their own civilizations. Even at that point she makes snide comments about being the only one who ever cleans. I always snap back at her that we clean up after ourselves as we go, none of this mess is ours.
The dishes were part of helping her keep the house clean. But she can come home and fill up both sides of the sink in one go, not to mention leaving out all the food and a big greasy mess all over the counter and stove. I have a petpeeve about leaving dishes in the sink for others to do. It's FAR too easy to just briefly rinse off shit after you're done using it... seeing dishes in the sink seems to me like pure laziness and entitlement. To me it feels similar to someone leaving their dirty clothes in the bathroom then getting mad that no one else washed them. It's just one of those things every person should be doing for themselves.
That came up during the fight. She claimed that I never do any dishes. I told her I wash every single dish I use right after I'm done (before AND after, cause her dishes skeeve me out) and I think at the least everyone should be responsible for their own dishes. She told me that's not fair because I don't eat. Her logic was she never sees my dishes in the sink...ergo instead of them being used and cleaned I must not be eating at all.
I could not get it into her head that the REASON she never sees my dishes is because they are always cleaned!
That's when I lost it. She's been harassing me about my eating habits since we got here. Condescendingly calling mea hipster vegan (which I'm not, I just make veggies 75% of my meals and snacks), constantly accusing me of never eating when I decline her disgusting butter-beef-noodles or deep fried dinners, making fun of my runs saying "don't be so obsessive, we have no control over our body shapes", or accusing me of "only eating a few nuts all day long" when she sees me grab a handful of almonds.
Any way. She is gone out apparently meeting with a maid service co. for an estimate. She stomped out telling me if I don't start cleaning I'll be paying her bill to have the house cleaned.
Whatever pig, good luck with that. I'm only here for another month any way, dunno what your plan is there. endrant