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[–] FickleFlame107 0 points 119 points (+119|-0) ago 

Dude is a pushover and has fats for friends. Two red flags right there. Him choosing to take the fatty home and letting you take the Uber also rubbed me the wrong way.

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[–] ButtarGollum 0 points 42 points (+42|-0) ago 

I agree with this, really rubbed me the wrong way too. That's not how you make an impression with a date, new or not. I'd never have chosen a friend over a date that I'm trying to impress. Sorry friend, but you'd be on your own, not that I'd ever have a fat friend in the first place.

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[–] Wizardslayer 0 points 13 points (+13|-0) ago 

I concur. If I went out with a girl and some friends I wold drive the girl home.

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[–] 6154978? 1 points 21 points (+22|-1) ago 

Signs of a beta if I've ever heard of one.

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[–] yomo86 2 points 16 points (+18|-2) ago 

Dont get me wrong I am a lawyer and while I hate it I have to be nice to these lardbeasts. I have to dine with those fat, lazy and vapid paralegals.

Today it is either a false sexual harassment or hostile work enviroment charge what they will be throwing at you for not being nice ir confront them with reality. It is worse for a man believe me.

And if shit hits the fan they will sabotage you. This means you loose the firm a client or a patient dies.

So you bite the bullet keep everything in a public setting to take off when the time allows and deal with it. Remember as a doc or med 2 they need the nurses more than the other way around.

So I do not think this guy is a pushover.

Honestly I would rather get by med school unscathed than have a happy relationship for god knows how long. You have to live with these harpies for at least 2 consecutive years 17h a day.

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[–] Fllmia 1 points 20 points (+21|-1) ago 

You can have a work dinner with them, sure. But you don't have a date dinner with them.

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

Ugh, I used to be a paralegal, and most lawyers and paralegals are fats. It's revolting.

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[–] yomo86 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

One addendum: the hambeasts will have invited themselves I presume no guy will shoot himself in the leg voluntarly to get lucky with a shitlady by having dinner with the three piglets ;)

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[–] FickleFlame107 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

I can get that, but then why invite these things to what is basically a dinner date?

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[–] TriggerWarning595 1 points 3 points (+4|-1) ago 

I actually think his story was weird. Med school is extremely tough, there is a reason many people leave it depressed and/or with suicidal thoughts.

I'm calling bs that any single person can do medschool, a full time job, and still have time to hit the gym and go on dates

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 1 points 1 points (+2|-1) ago  (edited ago)

Some people are better at juggling responsibilities than others. Just because you can't hack it, doesn't make it weird.

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[–] OhTheHamanatee 1 points 30 points (+31|-1) ago 

I kind of thought it's still all giggles and just friendship until he was ok with taking the butterbeast home instead of you. Gross. If you want to give him a chance, don't do anything with him and his butter friends at the same time. Since he's in med school, you could talk to him about the obvious obesity issue the world is dealing with and see where he stands. Usually, having whale friends might mean he has nothing against moldy fupa acceptance, or maybe he is just very ignorant. It's also obvious the sub-human beasts were into him. You could ask him about that, if they ever said anything about them liking him or something (might be a bit too direct, though).

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[–] ShitArchon 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

I kind of thought it's still all giggles and just friendship until he was ok with taking the butterbeast home instead of you. Gross.

That goes well beyond the obligations /u/yomo86 is talking about. And that's assuming he has any career obligations to be nice to hams.

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[–] theepilepticferret 0 points 21 points (+21|-0) ago 

Definitely talk to him about it. I understand that not everyone is a shitlord/shitlady, so some people have obeasts for friends, but the way they treated both of you was inexcusable. They were touching him and trying to flirt with him while he was on a date with you? That's not appropriate at all. Your date should have either said something ("please don't do that") or just moved his arm away from that pig. I mean, I have some guy friends that I'm really close with, but I would NEVER do something like that, especially while he's on a date with another woman.

Secondly, I don't like how when those hogs were ripping into you for your job and portion size, your date didn't stick up for you at all.

And third, like some of the other users have said, he let you take the cab home while he drove the fatty? That's not cool.

Proceed with caution, OP. If it does end up getting serious between you and this guy, expect those pigs to start telling him lies and starting a smear campaign against you. Fats are cruel and horrible.

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 0 points 17 points (+17|-0) ago 

Yeah, it's hard being a shitlady, almost every guy has fat friends.

I'm a tough lady, I think he assumed I could handle myself, and I did. Can't fault him for that. He did roll his eyes when they made a comment about my steak, so obviously there is a shitlord hiding in there somewhere.

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[–] Unsung_Heroes_again 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

As a guy, I resent this. I have fat brothers, but not fat friends!

(Btw french fries are finger food, unless its poutine, then its fork food)

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[–] ShitlordMcThrowaway 0 points 18 points (+18|-0) ago 

Don't tell us, tell him. That he has them for friends isn't any big deal (professional context? extended family?) but I don't get that he's out with you but taking a beast home. You're the one he should've taken home; the beast is the one who needed the fucking taxi (which he could have paid for if he really was or felt obliged). On the plus side, he clearly wasn't just there expecting you to put out in exchange for a meal (which you covered, anyway).

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 0 points 11 points (+11|-0) ago 

To be fair, I was insistent on taking the uber home, that isn't his fault. I don't expect him to sit there and cater to me. It wasn't until after he agreed to take her that I said I'd take a cab, so I know he was too nice to tell the cow he changed his mind. His loss.

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[–] Fllmia 1 points 15 points (+16|-1) ago 

I don't expect him to sit there and cater to me.

Sure, but I expect him not to sit there and cater to a fucking fat.

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[–] journalistsarelazy 0 points 13 points (+13|-0) ago 

So, let's fast forward to where you mention your true feelings about these loiter-sacks... and I think that'll be a problem. So the close friends behaved like clinging dating hopefuls rather than behaving as close friends would? Hard to judge from here but my close friends tend to sing my praises a bit and try to put my date at ease, sounds like they saw you as competition instead. If he keeps femayo whales as company I'd be worried about whether it has a big beta streak or where the real mates might have gone. Nice guy sounds like nice guy is too empathetic to ever put his foot down or see the thirsty fat clinging behaviour for the flirting it is.

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 1 points 16 points (+17|-1) ago 

I think he is honeslty oblivious to the fact that it's flirting, since I suspect he doesn't see them as sexual people, which is so fucking pathetic for them. If a man thinks of you as unfucakble, that's a problem.

So I think he just assumes they are being nice. Fat girls are always whores, so I know that isn't true.

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[–] FPSFairy 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

since I suspect he doesn't see them as sexual people

Forgetting that fats have non-food related urges can definitely land you in trouble, for sure. Especially if you also forget that fats tend to interpret anything shy of "fuck off, fatty" to be a sign that you like them. I've had a few encounters with fats who thought I was flirting with them because I basically just gave them the time of day, or thought I was looking at them. They can be as hungry for attention as they are for food, and not depriving them of both creates trouble.

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[–] journalistsarelazy 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Honestly, I'd be very surprised if he hasn't heard of their sex lives and dating details if they are 'close' friends and all single thirsty fats. And that means you'd probably not be that oblivious to their flirting. but... med school and empathy/sympathy traits could be quite high and often some like stoking their ego with weaker fools around them. I'd be very surprised if there haven't been any lunges at him to be later explained as drunkeness or something.

I'd ditch them probably on principle but that's just me looking for a similar hater!

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[–] trenDL 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

Turn him into a shitlord and get him to ditch his fat friends. He'll be grateful later in life and your relationship could end up working out.

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[–] Grave_Mercy 2 points 11 points (+13|-2) ago  (edited ago)

Girl. Go back and read this post. Why the fuck are you with this guy? He sat at that table and allowed them to talk to you like that? I understand a lot of guys don't read into the passive aggression and snide remarks women sometimes make to each other, but that's no excuse. They weren't even trying to hide it. You might be blinded by dating the "hot sexy almost-doctor" but that doesn't excuse these glaring red flags. I'd talk to him about it, and dependant on his response this could be a solid deal breaker.

edit: In case I'm not being clear enough, them being fat isn't even part of it at this point. Even if they were skinny and hot and male friends, I would be pissed. My mom always told me you're only as good as the company you keep, this guy isn't a winner.

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[–] FickleFlame107 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

The ham arm on his is straight up possessive shit.

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[–] libertas_aut_mors [S] 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Upvote for hilarious username and broom reference

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[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 7 points (+7|-0) ago 

This reminds me of my best friends birthday dinner at a pub, where it was us close friends and some of her acquaintances, maybe 20 people in all. All the fat ones were LOUD, like whole entire restaurant could hear loud, and never stopped talking (well maybe to shovel food in their mouth). Like they were so damn interesting or something. They just ate and ate and ate and drank and drank and drank and talked nonstop about diets. Elbows on table, burping, laughing like hyenas, spilling food everywhere. All the non fats, the people I mostly knew, were polite. I made sure to tip big.

As for you OP I would say 'fuck this' and get out while you can.

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