I've posted here complaining about my awful, terrible, no-good obeast receptionist before. Obviously I have other coworkers, they mostly range from average to fit to thin. (I'd describe myself as average BTW, not American average but actually average)
My work friend was seeing the doctor due to some symptoms of carpal tunnel. She is a tiny Pacific/Asian lady, probably 4-11" and around 99 lbs. She talks about her weight a lot, saying she wishes she could gain a few pounds, as being over 100 lbs would make her feel more "womanly." Haha, yes, turning the whole "REEEE-al Woman" thing around.
Totally unsolicited, her doctor started bugging her about her weight. She was repeatedly told she was MALNOURISHED. Based on nothing but her appearance. Friend said her BMI was calculated at 20. Twenty!!
She was almost in tears. I told her not to worry, 20 is totally good. It's on the lower side of normal, but it's not even in underweight category, is it? Besides, coworker eats plenty, I see her chow down at lunch on the daily and she's always talking about the endless dinners and banquets her friends and family put on. I asked her if the doctor was fat, and she said "she was American, it's hard to tell."
Burrrnnnnn. Would this be reverse-thin-privilege? Skinny shaming?
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[–] shart_in_a_fat_roll 3 points 5 points 8 points (+8|-3) ago
Well then, she has either broken physics, or has a legitimate condition that is preventing her body from digesting food properly. Assuming the latter, it's probably not absorbing nutrients either, meaning she might very-well be malnourished and should really get that shit checked out.
Have her count calories for a couple weeks. It's very easy to do. My prediction: it will be less than you think.
[–] AislesOnFire [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I don't mean she has defied the laws of thermodynamics. Obviously she has a higher TDEE and although she enjoys food, tends to eat below it. I offered this as a counter example to the "I cannot lose weight" moaners and groaners we see so often. She had vitamin levels checked as part of her lab panels and they were all normal (she showed me as she was genuinely upset and questioning the doctor) ❤️
[–] mmmmdonuts 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Just my take, I guess, but I'm the same size and weight. I'm a social eater, so people tend to think I eat a lot all the time but really when I'm by myself I can't really be bothered to eat that much at all. Or, she just thinks she eats a lot compared to her family or culture and has no idea how much fat people really eat...
[–] shart_in_a_fat_roll 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Not obvious at all. She hasn't done a count yet, so we have no reason to believe her TDEE is any higher than would be predicted for her height+weight.
It's not a counter example. Hams use anecdotes like this to support their theory that some people are "naturally thin" and therefore they are "naturally fat."
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[–] shart_in_a_fat_roll 3 points 3 points 6 points (+6|-3) ago
I have no shits to give about anyone's estimate of their calorie intake. You're either counting, or you're not.
When I count calories for a cut, my weight exactly follows what it should after the initial water-weight drop.
When I'm not counting, I miss by a lot. I'll think I'm running these huge surpluses because I ate tons of cookies+cake or whatever bullshit today, but then forget that I skipped lunch, dinner, and breakfast the next day because I was still feeling like shit from the sugar binge.
Fuck your guesses, count or gtfo.