Hey AW!
I'm really loving the feedback from the community right now, so keep it coming in and I'll try my best to work on it! Also let's also give a welcome to our two new lovely mods @Mast3rBak3r and @takshis!
Moving onto the thread topic, these are basically going to be a set of discussions that are going to be archived in the sidebar so we can provide at least some input on common subjects.
For this topic, we'll be discussing the topic of virginity as I feel this is a question that pops up fairly often between both men and women who are either curious about their own or are insecure about it or any other questions and comments related to the subject.
So women of voat, what are your thoughts of virginity overall?
More questions to answer are available in the comments! Don't be afraid to ask questions either, these are just side questions. :)
That's all! If you have any suggestions for future FAQ discussions, please don't hesitate to suggest, we strongly appreciate it!
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[–] iv [S] 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago
Would you pursue a relationship with a guy who you know is a virgin?
[–] DireParasite 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Yes, as long as it wasn't a "wait till married" deal. I ain't about that life.
[–] Profitigation ago
Absolutely if his reasons were for purity or of finding "the right girl". But if his state of being is because of emotional, spiritual, or physical abuse then .... NO!
[–] iv [S] 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
What are your thoughts on older virgins?
(Beyond 20 years old)
[–] Profitigation ago
I think the "older the virgin" the more I would recognize the beliefs systems that he hold close to his heart. If the reasons for purity or of finding "the right girl" this is quite commendable. But if this state of being is because of emotional, spiritual, or physical abuse then .... it's a deeper seated issue than I am willing to work through or experience.
[–] DireParasite ago
Its a little odd but irrelevant.
[–] iv [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Do you prefer your partner to tell you that they are a virgin beforehand?
[–] DireParasite 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Absolutely.
[–] Profitigation ago
Of course. Complete openness, honesty, and intentions are a necessity before ever "going there" physically, mentally, or spiritually with a man
[–] iv [S] 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
What is your general reaction towards being told that a guy/girl is a virgin?
[–] Vladimara 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I would do my damn hardest to fix that. <3
[–] Profitigation ago
Depends on who's telling me, lol. *If it's him then total 'awww, sweet' / good for them :) *If it's someone without best intentions, then I think that person is hateful and violated a persons sacred trust and I'd call them out on it. never mentioning the conversation again to others including the violated virgin.
[–] DireParasite ago
It would make me wonder why the are. No negative reaction really. Kind of sweet tbh.
[–] Sragwaven 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Virginity is a thing you have until you don't have it anymore. I've never understood all the hubub about it. I was never really attached to mine, and I don't really miss it now. It was just a state of never having had sex to me, neither good nor bad. It's just a statement like any other. I never quite got the whole thing, and I probably never will.
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[–] iv [S] ago
I definitely understand where you're coming from, everyone has an entirely different viewpoint on the subject!
However that's something I personally really like about these types of forums, the answers are so different and you have a variety of responses! I thought it might help get the community to be involved and to help prompt a discussion.
However, if the AW community feels that these threads are unnecessary and don't provide much to the subverse, then the idea can be scrapped in favour of something else.
Thank you for your input and I'll keep in mind that perhaps what we need is something different to get involved. :)
[–] Profitigation ago
I was blessed to have experienced my "first time" in the manner I did. He and I had been dating approximately 8 months and he was ALWAYS very considerate of my comfort boundaries, never acted pushy or distraught over my being less experienced than he. He made me feel confident, in control, and beautiful. When the time came it was at my insistence and direction. He was most importantly respectful of my inexperience, it never seemed an issue at all. For me it was special. We dated another 2 and half years and never once did I feel any regret for sharing myself so fully with him.
It has now been more than 30 years since those days for me and while we each moved on with our lives to include: Marriages, children, divorces, etc. We are even to this very day still friends. I believe the key factor I learned is actually choosing "the right partner" Someone you can share a life with mentally, physically, emotionally, and spiritually. Now while he was not my 'Life Partner' he was exactly who I needed in life. He set high standards for every man since to meet, for this I am most appreciative.
[–] DrinkYourNailPolish ago
I waited until I was married. I was glad that I did.
[–] DireParasite ago
I didnt have sex until I was 19. I wanted it to be special. It wasn't and the boy wasnt special and did horrible things to me throughout our relationship. Overall it was shitty. And so was everyone else's. Too much hype and too much value put on something meaningless thing.