Something ive been thinking about. My brother is the definition of the continuation of abuse. My parents were never really there, your typical detached, resentful family who had nothing but contempt for their offspring. The very idea of treating your kids nicely was met with shock and disgust, because apparently they had to continue the family tradition of telling your kids to eat shit at every turn. I decided early on i would have none of it and left and kept a very low contact, no on site approach. My brother did the opposite, and succumbed, and he paid the price for it.
My brother has a drinking problem, fueled by my parent's verbal abuse. He was never the bad child, or scapegoated, but for some reason he fell into substance abuse. This wouldnt be bad if he drank once in a while, but its all the time. He would gte drunk, get extremely violent, and throw tantrums and smash/break stuff. He literally told me when we were younger that i live to serve him and that i am his slave, and he would happily blackmail me back to my parents and lie about me if he ever once decided i wasnt cleaning hard enough or groveliing to him didnt match his expectations (we used to live together, terrible idea).
And then there's the lying. He lies about everything, big, small, microscopic, doesnt matter. If it has a version to it, he will say the opposite. This has caused numerous issues in the past, he would lie about chores, lie about relationships, he would even go so far to dump his own emitional immaturity onto me, so i would get calls and be screamed ay by his gf for being a terrible influence. Literally, at the time i met up with him at best once a week for a few hours.
The last is the mental breakdowns i simply couldnt handle anymore. Now that i decided to leave EVERYONE in the family, all of a sudden my parents realized they couldnt use me as the abuse punching bag. So then they decided to use my brother. All of a sudden this guy wanted sympathy for being treated like shit ... after he happily joined in on the abuse from a young age, treated me like dog shit for my whole life, dumped his fiscal (other story) problems onto me, played my parents and me against each other (something he claims he never did even though i have proof), happily joined my bullies in high school to taunt me, destroyed my reputation by spreading rumors and lies about me to the point i lost my best friend at the time, instead of having integrity and standing up for me. Fuck you, and rot in hell.