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[–] septopus 8 points -3 points (+5|-8) ago 

I hate people like you. I would like you to get hit by a bus. I wish I believed in god so I could pray for it.

The whole monogamy thing is horse shit. People cheat. Not always because they dont love or desire the person they are with or want to leave them, but because life complex and sometimes we have attachments to other people. Love is the concern for the welfare of another. If you get bent out of shape because someone banged someone else the problem is that you are a fucken asshole who has placed too much importance on what?

You know how dogs are loyal? They will stick by your side through almost anything. Some of them you can kick and they will come back and love you. But they will go fuck pretty much anything they can. Some people are like that.

A guy supports his wife and her ventures. Applauds and helps make sure she has the career she wants, does the shit she wants, helps with the kids, loves her, gets her off, and is generally good to her... Goes out and bangs someone and all that magically is ignored and the guy is a piece of shit?

Some people, and animals, are wired to be monogamous, some are programmed that way by society, and some are not. I just think its a fucken waste that people put so much importance on monogamy that they get so fucken hurt by it. Boggles the mind. Boring bunch of fucks if they only want to bang one person for all eternity.

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[–] septopus 1 point 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

Someone else downvoted you. I am giving you an upvote to counter that in order that this does not get buried.

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[–] septopus 4 points -3 points (+1|-4) ago 

Not talking about open relationships. I am talking about cheating. If you are so tied up on monogamy that you throw away everything else going good you are fucken retarded and should get hit by a bus. If you think that makes a person a piece of shit your metrics are fucked up. I'm an idiot because I see it more clearly than you? Cheating being a deal breaker in otherwise awesome relationships? It's the sign of immature dumb fucks and those who fail at cost benefit analysis and those who dont really understand love in the least.

Great dad, great husband, all that shit... toss all that away because someone cheated? I've seen that shit so many time. Know what ends up happening? Everyone gets fucked. Brings out the worse shit in people. They then ruin the kids with fighting. Over what? Banging someone else? Tactically bad moves to throw away relationships because of shit like that.

People who think you way are mindless fucks. By all means tell us why this line item trumps all others. Because your heart is broken? Explain to us why the fuck your heart is broken? Because you have to own someone? And you stop loving someone because they cheat on you? What a fucken shallow piece of shit someone has to be to have their love based on some dumb shit like that.

Love is the concern with the welfare of another. If you are willing to dump someone over shit like that you never loved them imo.

Like I said, the immature, childish, and retarded place that much importance on sex.

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[–] septopus 1 point 0 points (+1|-1) ago 

I've been in monogamous and open relationships. I've never dumped anyone for cheating on me inside a monogamous relationship because it's not a line item I care about. I've been dumped for. It's not about justifying my existence tho. It's about the actual idea. When you love someone you love them. Period. One must thing logically; what is a trespass? What did it deprive you of? Someone I am seeing banging someone else has deprived me of what exactly? Love to me is the concern with another person's welfare and happiness. Inside that I feel a sense of compersion at the happiness of someone I love. Jealousy is not love imo.

There a millions of people of of various types. Its not hard to find someone who wants a monogamous relationship if that is what one is looking for.

You say you dont ruin a relationship by cheating. I say you dont ruin it because someone cheated. I dont magically stop loving someone, or lusting them, because oh lordy they shared an intimate emotional or sexual experience with someone else. It seems pitiful to toss love away over such a non-starter.