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[–] barset ago
This shit started back in the 50s. I really wish I could find the documentary I saw about a decade ago discussing how women since heavily entering the work place have not only caught up with men in terms of affairs, but have surpassed them.
I'm really torn on the issue. In a marriage you, depending on your agreed upon terms, you pretty much lock yourself to one person, but that seems counter to our nature. People have been fucking around for as long as people could fuck it seems like maybe its not such a bad thing, but becomes problematic when people get less selective about sexually partners and diseases get involved.
I dunno. I'm also a dude, who's been cheated on, cheated, and just don't know how to feel about the whole deal.
[–] EyeRape 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I have had the opportunity to cheat before (some drunk girl at the bar) but I just can't and couldn't stomach doing it.
I always thought I would marry an awesome girl that would be loyal to me and I to her, but it seems to me that this just isn't possible anymore, or if it is then extremely rare situations and what are the odds of meeting that girl, every fucking guy wants that girl.
From my own personal experience, and that of my friends, this is exactly the case.
Compared to girls I rarely hear of guys cheating but I do hear of girls cheating on guys a lot more, not just from guys but from girls admitting to the cheating or trying to cheat, like the girl at the bar that was trying to get into my pants (she had a bf and she knew I had a gf) when we were just talking casually. She said he (her bf) was always too tired for sex and working all the time, so she goes out to the bar and tries to sleep with me and her rationale was "its not like I'm gonna marry him" (her exact words) but ffs if she can't stay faithful when they aren't married what will change when she is? She will just rationalize herself into cheating.
Not only that, but girls just hop from guy to guy. So. Many. Guys.
If a girl is decently attractive and she wants a bf, she will always have a bf. I think its interesting. I have a couple exes that do the same trips and go to the same places with each bf..its as if the guy isn't even a person but just an object to fill a role that fits them.
Example: ex gf goes to a downtown area that is heavily decorated for christmas every year, and takes the same picture in front of the tree every year (it doesn't matter which bf it is, I've seen her at the same spot with at least 3-4 different boyfriends).
As guys, we are interchangeable pieces that fit their lives, and if we don't fit or start to not fit they'll discard us for a newer model.
Its a little depressing, but its true.
[–] barset 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago (edited ago)
A key thing to interject into this is "for you." We are all puzzle pieces. Some fit, some don't, some do, but the picture doesn't quite match up.
I've been in a relationship where nothing was wrong and everything was right about it, even when we fought we made it work, but I blew it because I felt like at 21 I should date around some more because how do I know if this is best in life if I have no comparison? Regretted it ever since. Didn't cheat, ended it. She's been divorced and remarried since and I think maybe we should have stayed together and our lives would both be better.
I digress. The biggest problem is you can't catch fish if you don't go fishing, and this is where someone would insert a gif of a fish landing in someone's lap while riding in a boat, but you gotta own a boat and those kind of bitches are slippery.
It sucks. Go out, meet, talk, fuck, maybe it works maybe it doesn't, repeat until desired results.