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[–] blumen4alles 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

I did not know wraps existed until fairly recently (within the last 8 years or so). I was amazed how comfortable it looked for both the mother and baby. Also amazed how skillfully she used the wrap being a first time mother, I was curious but did not want to intrude too much (where did she learn it from, did she practice a lot - were some questions that popped in my head).

Be careful telling other people your plans, those will ill-intent will try to mind-fuck you. Don't give them "ins".

I doubt you can spoil a baby. Use your instincts, feel it out. Please don't mutilate them or give your power away to someone wearing a white lab coat. Control your own.

Congratulations, I hope the birth goes smoothly :)

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[–] messdnys [S] 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

Thank you! Yeah I am learning to let a lot of what my MIL says just bounce off me. She is the only mother-figure in my life (my own mother is a radical feminist and we are estranged), so I want to learn from her as much as is appropriate - after all, she helped raised my husband who is an incredible man. But I'm having to learn to recognize when she's just giving me bad advice.

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[–] TheAntiZealot 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago  (edited ago)

Mothers can only "raise" weak men (assuming they are a guide, mentor, or otherwise persistent figure). Your husband made himself incredible; she didn't. He's internally driven. Give proper credit where it is due.

He likely found a man (or many men) as a mentor or as a role model and learned that way.

I have a poor relationship with my mother and everything good to me came when I distanced myself from her emotionally. When a girl finds me attractive and says something like "thank your mother for raising you because you're awesome" it leaves a bad taste. My mother is why I'm traumatized. Escaping her is why I'm strong.

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[–] NoTrueScotsman 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I guarantee she practiced a lot. It takes a while to get the hang of tightening them right.There are a bunch of tutorial videos and channels on YouTube to learn techniques, as well as social media groups.

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[–] blumen4alles 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I figured she did. It was amazing how she would just take the wrap and get it so perfect. It was quick too, I would have taken forever.