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[–] OneOfTheBoys [S] ago 

So much yes to everything you said! Yeah I've stopped commenting for the most part, but I still read. I stopped after I got into a thing where a few piled on me because I spoke out as the lone voice of objection when everyone was all "fed is best" - like WTAF, who is saying "breastmilk or starve!" also if I give a newborn a chocolate milkshake is that "best" too? I put it more poiletly than that but my main issue was them saying people shouldn't give tips on breastfeeding when they say they are having trouble as it might just be impossible and they should use formula guilt free, and one of the tips (eating oats for supply) was something that was the difference between doctors saying I had to use formula and fully breastfeeding.

Mummy wars are real. I try not judge, give people the benefit of the doubt and be helpful. Nobody is the perfect mum, I really believe "good enough" is enough, strive for prefection but settle with realistic expectations so you don't end up a different kind of crap mum.

I just get annoyed with the crabs. I want to know when there is a better way. I'm happy to listen to alternative strategies and can entertain ideas without accepting them and changing when I learn new information. I don't understand the doubling down stuff.

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[–] Hippie_Housewife 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I stopped after I got into a thing where a few piled on me because I spoke out as the lone voice of objection when everyone was all "fed is best" - like WTAF, who is saying "breastmilk or starve!"

Yeah. It's frustrating how hard it can be to have a conversation with a group of moms - or really, even just a group of women in general - about anything even remotely controversial or sensitive. People take everything as if you personally insulted them and everything is about feelings. Why can't we just have an honest discussion about why breastmilk is the ideal food for babies? Why do we have to pad that with a hundred soothing reassurances that formula moms are just as good at mothering? It's ridiculous. I've noticed that this is far more pronounced with liberal-minded women - they are far harder to talk to than conservative ones, almost always. They claim to be more open-minded but often they're far more fragile and emotional and sensitive than their allegedly close-minded conservative counterparts.