Yeah I'm on FedBook. I'm not a great socializer so it helps. Unfortunately it's only really really good at keeping friends not making them.
One of my friends older sister is on FB and she is such an Empress - she is the main reason I log on with her beautiful posts of loving her husband, kids and God, making food and memories etc. but she is far away, and the exception.
I have come here to vent about non-trad mothers... There is a large FB group I'm in of them, and while I love my mother's group ladies they are not trad and sometimes I notice things about them and also mums in the wild.
There is (particularly on the FB group) a lot of whinging about being a mum. I know part of the groups purpose is for venting but the level of it is sometimes shocking to me. "I feel relief when I go to work" stood out to me, as I would feel grief leaving my baby to go to work.
There are a lot of validation / guilt relief seeking posts "my baby is really clingy and have to go back to work next week, will they be okay?" with replies full of "Following! Same here." and "Mine was the same and s/he LOVES it now - don't worry!" how could I ever reply with "No, your baby will not be okay to suddenly spend hours away from you with one stranger per 4-10 children they don't know."?
Also so many pro-vaccine posts. Posting any sort of legitimate information is instantly vilified and pro-vaccine rhetoric and anecdote related over and over.
Someone posted that their kids react badly to vaccines and asking is the flu shot worth getting. I tried to point out (using government/phrama sources) that the flu vaccine was less than 50% effective on the few strains it covers and that it is negligibly effective against all the other strains and was demonized. Tons of comments trying to convince this mum to risk her child's safety for the good of the herd, with zero evidence produced.
These same vaccine crazy mums are also constantly complaining how their daycare babies are always sick and spreading it to the fanily -some spending as many days home as in care. They speak of the horror of having to take time off work to take care of their sick baby. Sure, a good deal of that illness is from the exposure from spending lots of time around other kids but my baby gets a decent exposure to the general public including kids plus my baby always wants to lick hand rails at the playground, on the bus etc. 🙄 and has only been sick once - which was the flu, and only had a mild case for 4 days (I got it for over a week and my husband for a fortnight both fairly bad). Sure I was just whinging about anecdotal evidence but I'm sure this has nothing to do with vaccines hurting the natural immune system /s.
There is a also a weird overprotectiveness of my baby when I'm out. Like mums rousing on their kids/babies for doing things may possibly be perceived as maybe leading to a dangerous situation for my kid. And yanking their kid/baby away whenever there is about to be any sort of physical contact... Non-whites excepted here. Although they are usually just not supervising at all.
I wish I had friends like my friends older sister (the real life @Empress) to hang out with. There is a lot of mums who while (mostly) love their babies, don't love being a mum, and I can't relate to that at all. Don't even get me started on the public verbal husband bashing.
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[–] Dortex 2 points -2 points 0 points (+0|-2) ago
Well, you find me one of your "facts" and we (I) spend three minutes hunting down a primary source. Then we can talk about that.
No tests. Just a talk. Everyone has something to bring to the table; even their failures. I'm sure we'll both walk away a bit less dumb from this.
[–] OneOfTheBoys [S] 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Takes me way longer than three minutes. I would prefer if you did a new post explaining common things people get wrong or overlook when reading studies and other things you think are important. But if you really want to go this route than how about the fact I mentioned in my post that the flu vaccine does not prevent against all strains of the flu and those it does target it is not very effective.
Either way you should create a new post in v/science and ping me, rather than continuing here. That way more people who are interested in what you will bring to the table can see it.