Anon Archived Thing my father taught me about being a wife & marriage. (TraditionalWives)
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Anon Archived Thing my father taught me about being a wife & marriage. (TraditionalWives)
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[–] Hippie_Housewife ago
Interesting list!
"That having a man make his own meals was emasculating considering how much he worked to earn the money for groceries."
That's kinda hilarious though. ;) Emasculating? I would think it's the opposite: a man who is not even capable of making himself a sandwich seems to me to be rather weak. Being able to feed yourself is a basic life skill that every person, male and female alike, should be able to do. Obviously if your wife is a homemaker and you as a man work full time, it makes far more sense for her to cook because she's home and she has all kinds of time for it. But to say that it is emasculating seems a bit outrageous to me. My husband always gets his own breakfasts because he has a specific way he likes it made and doesn't see the need to have me make it for him unless he's not well. My part in it is to make sure we don't run out of coffee, bread, peanut butter, etc. He mostly makes his own lunches too - again, my part is making sure there are leftovers in the fridge or other ingredients he can use to make what he likes. He brews beer and lately he's branching out into other fermenting/preserving hobbies: pickled eggs, sourdough bread starter (and loaves! he made his first loaf this week and it was pretty good), sauerkraut. None of this makes him less of a man. My dad is the same and always was...mom packs him lunches on his work days but he always gets his own breakfasts, and when he's off work he gets his own lunches as well. Sometimes he even cooks dinner. It's an important skill for a man because he may not get married right off the bat when he's young, and even if he does there will be times when his wife is sick or recovering from childbirth or something and is unable to make food.
My dad didn't do much to prepare me specifically for being a wife. But he did prepare me for life in general. He taught me how to take risks and how to evaluate which risks are worth taking and which ones are just plain stupid. He told me that he'd treat me like an adult when I started acting like one, which had a big influence on me as a teenager and helped me try harder. He taught me to have a solid work ethic, to not be afraid of getting my hands dirty or DIYing a project. He taught me how to ride a bike, swim, drive a car, paddle a canoe, sail a small boat, pitch a tent, light a fire, ski, skate, and so much more. And he modeled for me what a good husband and father looks like. Because of the way he treated my mother and my siblings and I, I learned to expect a man to treat me with respect and love but also have the stones to tell me the hard truths I sometimes need to hear. Because of his parenting skills I made it to adulthood without any "daddy issues" - he was always there for me and always involved in what I was doing. His influence shaped me and I owe him so much.
[–] 18720516? [S] ago
LOL my dad said a lot of outrageous things ;)
On another note- your dad seems to have done a very fine job raising you. Sounds like a wonderful father.