My husband works directly with a woman who is in her early 20s. I occasionally have cause to interact with her as well. I hadn’t seen her in a while and recently saw her. She had wrinkles and lines like she was at least 15-20 years older than she was. She was still on the heavy side despite her #gymlife t-shirt and Facebook selfies of her at the gym. Come to find out that she has multiple bi-racial children who are 7-9 years old. Meaning she was 13-16 when she had her kids. The dad was gone and they all live with her parents. She is rarely home with them because she spends her evenings drinking and partying, and when she isn’t drunk at the club she is frequently picking her kids from school buzzed. She’s hooking up with multiple random people she meets at bars at night. this is all by her own admission, because she goes to work and talks non stop about her problems. She will tell anyone who will listen how she can’t hold down a relationship, how she’s lonely, how the men she hooks up don’t seem to care about her or take interest in her. She is surrounded by drama and she backstabs any female within her vicinity. She cries and spills the beans to anyone who’ll listen.
This is what this lifestyle does to women. Alcohol is not your friend. Random sex isn’t fulfilling or worthwhile. You will feel hollow afterwards and the party lifestyle will take its toll.
My sister is in her early twenties as well. She married at 19, and stays at home with her two babies. She has an overall happy and fulfilling life and says missing out on all of that saved her life.
You have a choice.
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[–] 16801935? 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
The town I grew up in is full of "starter wives" . Gorgeous, put together, young women pushing around half black babies sired by sideways hat wearing losers who will never really be involved, but never really be out of the picture either.