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[–] LilBrattyMkr 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Quick question: The do not complain piece, is that do not complain about him and the things he does, or do not complain about anything in life to him? Example: I had a doctor's appointment this morning and I felt like I completely wasted my time. Texted him that it was an utter waste of time and then realized I had complained. Is that not something I should be sharing with him? If I'm not supposed to complain at all, how do I share what happened without it seeming like a complaint? I want to follow this challenge as best as possible to get the most out of it.

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[–] 14929128? [S] 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

Something like that is fine so long as you avoid a 20 minute vent session as soon as he walks in the door. How's it been going so far?

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[–] LilBrattyMkr 0 points 1 point (+1|-0) ago 

I've been so much more attentive to my behavior. I've been changing my critiques and opinions into questions. Like if he says he wants to do something but I don't think it should be done that way because X, Y and Z. Instead of saying "I think we should do this because of X, Y and Z" I ask, "What about X, Y and Z? What if that happens?" And then he responds with a really good thought that I have no qualms getting on board with. It's been really neat to see all of these ideas my husband has that I didn't even know about because I was just doing things my way without ever asking his opinion. The weekend is just about here so it'll be neat to see how we do through the weekend. He's been working 10-12 hours/day this week so we haven't had a chance to spend too much time together.