I recently ended a relationship with a man. It wasn't especially long lasting, and emotionally I feel fine, although sad. There wasn't anything fundamentally wrong with he and I, but I'd not been single in about ten years. I'd gone from one relationship to another, for a lot of reasons (thank heavens for therapists, I'm picking apart the reasoning for all this slowly and working through it) but we had different desires in the long run and would have made one another profoundly unhappy.
What advice would you ladies offer to someone wanting to improve themselves through a period of being alone? I'm on top of my finances and not in debt, but I guess I'm looking to cultivate new skills or habits that will help me to be a better version of myself for when I feel ready to start seeing someone again. Are there any skills you'd suggest I learn? I can cook fairly well but I'd like to have better food storage, I guess?
Sorry this is a little vague, i guess it all made more sense in my head, but I feel as though I want this period in my life to be productive and healthy and to come out of it a better version of myself
Thanks a lot.
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[–] callthehambulance [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
"I wasn't looking for a new relationship, but I was definitely in a sane space for one."
That's the point I'm looking to get to. And I love what you say about being alone gracefully. That really struck a chord with me.As does your observation about dealing with personality issues which had strained previous relationships. That's some great advice there, so thank you for the insight and taking time to reply.
Also, congratulations on the engagement and so many warm wishes for a long and happy life together to you both!
[–] 14033049? 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Hey, thank you! Best of luck. Self-improvement is always worth it.