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[–] cyclops1771 0 points 8 points (+8|-0) ago 

Kids are out of house.

Now, go do something for herself - take art classes, form a book group, get a job, go back to school.

She has done her job as a mother to society. If she misses dealing with children, go volunteer at a children's wing at a hospital. Do readings at the library. Volunteer at schools to be a tutor. Volunteer around the church.

So, my advice to you to give to here is "Fill your days with work, like you used to do at home, but where it can bring the most joy to you personally, and stop spending all your time brooding over how things could have been different. Idle minds, like idle hands, are the devil's workshop."


[–] SquarebobSpongebutt 0 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago 

It is very important to find the "next you". So many women look at their marriage as failing when the reality is that they are having an issue adjusting to a different role.


[–] cyclops1771 0 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago 

My mother went through this when the 4th child got into High school - returned to university, worked as a volunteer at a Social work building (bad parents, not bad kids) with my wife, went to Mass every morning.

Now, she works for the Church, helping poor families by running a donation pantry, "keep the lights on" bill pay program, etc. It's rewarding for her, it helps the community become a true community, and it allows people to have some sort of dignity rather than expect government to take care of them. I'm really proud of her for finding a calling of sorts, rather than just drink to alleviate the boredom of the empty house.