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[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago 

Okay. A few hard and fast pieces of advice from a thirtysomething woman who has seen some shit. ;)

You can't be a whore all the way through your 20s and then magically find yourself a handsome, well-adjusted, nice man who wants to settle down and give you the beautiful life you feel you deserve. That doesn't work. If you want to sleep around, it will cost you dearly in the long run. If you know that one day you want to marry a good guy and have a family, don't go down Whore Avenue in the first place. Don't have hookups. Don't be anyone's booty call. Don't take strangers home from the club. Just don't. The kind of man who wants to be a family man will be entirely put off by a woman who's slutting it up; he's going to pick the nice girl who has a social life that doesn't revolve around alcohol, drugs, parties, and sex instead. So if you want that good guy, be the good girl who will catch his eye.

You can't actually "have it all", not all at the same time. You can get a degree. You can have a career. You can have a lovely family. But not all at once! Something has to give. Don't let it be your children.

Speaking of children, don't assume that you can put it off until your late 30s and still have the family you want. Your fertility peaks in your early 20s; not only that, but your body recovers much faster in your early 20s than it will later in life. One of the biggest lies feminism has told to women is that our fertility is totally in our control. It's not. If you want kids don't wait too long.

Learn to pay attention to your motivations - why you are thinking/feeling/saying/doing/wearing that. So many things we do flow out of things like insecurity or competitiveness toward other women, or a desire for male attention, or an abundance of emotion. The negative aspects of our female nature can easily overtake us and control us, but once you become aware of them you can take the steering wheel instead and they no longer have to hold sway.

Question your feelings. Always. The fact that you're feeling something doesn't make it the truth. You may feel hurt but that doesn't mean the person intended to hurt you or did anything wrong. You may feel regret but that doesn't mean you were sexually assaulted or raped. You may feel mad at your man but that doesn't mean he is in the wrong. You know? Feelings are awesome and they lend so much depth to the human experience...they are the drivers of art, of dance, of poetry and literature, of music and so many beautiful things. But they must be kept in check. They are meant to be felt, but we have to be careful not to let them call the shots, or guide our decisions, or be expressed carelessly or in a manner more befitting a hormonal twelve-year-old. Question your feelings. Feel them; analyze them; consider what's really going on and how to deal with it. Don't let your feelings run unchecked.

Porn is bad for you as well as for men. Porn's just bad. It doesn't have any place in a healthy relationship. Nobody needs it. Don't watch it and don't ever turn a blind eye and accept a man watching it while he's dating you, either. It is sexual junk food and it does to your heart, mind, and soul what five meals of McDonalds per day does to your body.

Being feminine and traditional is good enough. Being womanly is good enough. We don't have to emulate the masculine in order to be taken seriously or get ahead or be happy in life. If your ambition is to be a great wife and mom, that is good enough! Feminism says that we must be career oriented, in possession of a degree, open to sexual experimentation, etc.in order to be a good strong woman. That's shit.

If you're white, don't date black men. You have a 97% chance, give or take, that they won't stick around, particularly if you get pregnant. Find a nice white guy instead. Ditto with Muslim men.Not even once, ladies.

Liberalism and feminism are mind cancer. They will destroy you as a person just as surely as they have destroyed family values and western society.

There are only two genders.

Read lots of good books, nonfiction as well as fiction.

Lift weights.

I think that's about it for now!

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[–] daskapitalist 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Those are great points, particularly regarding fertility and not being able to have it all. A lot of western women assume that because men throw themselves at them when they're young, that this will continue forever and life will be eternally on easy-mode.

Unfortunately too few people point out that female youth, fertility, and beauty are a declining asset that women receive up front. Women need to use it to land a good man when they're young so they can develop other assets as they age (e.g. a pleasant temperament, children or a career, etc).

Otherwise gals end up wondering "where have all the good men gone" in their 30s because those good men have been making something of themselves while she's been squandering her SMV.

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[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago 

Those are great points, particularly regarding fertility and not being able to have it all. A lot of western women assume that because men throw themselves at them when they're young, that this will continue forever and life will be eternally on easy-mode.

It's not just that. It's your body itself and how our fertility naturally works. Taking it for granted is always, always a mistake. I did. I grew up in a Christian home...born again when I was 13...I decided to save sex for marriage, and married a guy who did too. We were virgins until our wedding night. I assumed that everything would be just fine in that department because we had waited, and that surely meant God would bless us with lots of kids. I was a vibrantly healthy 19-year-old, after all, so what could possibly go wrong?

hahaha sobbing Yeah, I was naive. So many things went wrong. Four of the six babies I ever conceived died, one at full term just out of the blue. Bringing kids into the world turned out to be laced with trauma and fear and grief for me, in spite of "doing it the right way" and being young and, I assumed, healthy. My female issues have only gotten worse as I've gotten older. I'm 34 now, and there's no way in hell I would ever want to try to start a family with the way my cycle is now! It's pretty screwed up. I'm so very thankful that we didn't wait, and that we managed to have the two kids we've got. Banking on "one day in my thirties" is a terrible idea for women. Oh it works out for some of them, but not everyone is lucky.

Women need to use it to land a good man when they're young so they can develop other assets as they age (e.g. a pleasant temperament, children or a career, etc).

That's another Red Pill for women - if you want to land a good man, then you have to develop your mind and character and temperament in your teen years, while you're young, because a good man will be looking for a woman who is kind and has strong values and is a delight to be around. He's gonna be less interested in an angry fembot.

Otherwise gals end up wondering "where have all the good men gone" in their 30s because those good men have been making something of themselves while she's been squandering her SMV.

Yep. This is especially true if she got herself pregnant and is currently a single mom. All those "good men" were the ones she spurned in favour of sleeping with the players.

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[–] theepilepticferret 1 point -1 points (+0|-1) ago 

"Men age like wine... Women age like milk" 😂