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Okay. A few hard and fast pieces of advice from a thirtysomething woman who has seen some shit. ;)
You can't be a whore all the way through your 20s and then magically find yourself a handsome, well-adjusted, nice man who wants to settle down and give you the beautiful life you feel you deserve. That doesn't work. If you want to sleep around, it will cost you dearly in the long run. If you know that one day you want to marry a good guy and have a family, don't go down Whore Avenue in the first place. Don't have hookups. Don't be anyone's booty call. Don't take strangers home from the club. Just don't. The kind of man who wants to be a family man will be entirely put off by a woman who's slutting it up; he's going to pick the nice girl who has a social life that doesn't revolve around alcohol, drugs, parties, and sex instead. So if you want that good guy, be the good girl who will catch his eye.
You can't actually "have it all", not all at the same time. You can get a degree. You can have a career. You can have a lovely family. But not all at once! Something has to give. Don't let it be your children.
Speaking of children, don't assume that you can put it off until your late 30s and still have the family you want. Your fertility peaks in your early 20s; not only that, but your body recovers much faster in your early 20s than it will later in life. One of the biggest lies feminism has told to women is that our fertility is totally in our control. It's not. If you want kids don't wait too long.
Learn to pay attention to your motivations - why you are thinking/feeling/saying/doing/wearing that. So many things we do flow out of things like insecurity or competitiveness toward other women, or a desire for male attention, or an abundance of emotion. The negative aspects of our female nature can easily overtake us and control us, but once you become aware of them you can take the steering wheel instead and they no longer have to hold sway.
Question your feelings. Always. The fact that you're feeling something doesn't make it the truth. You may feel hurt but that doesn't mean the person intended to hurt you or did anything wrong. You may feel regret but that doesn't mean you were sexually assaulted or raped. You may feel mad at your man but that doesn't mean he is in the wrong. You know? Feelings are awesome and they lend so much depth to the human experience...they are the drivers of art, of dance, of poetry and literature, of music and so many beautiful things. But they must be kept in check. They are meant to be felt, but we have to be careful not to let them call the shots, or guide our decisions, or be expressed carelessly or in a manner more befitting a hormonal twelve-year-old. Question your feelings. Feel them; analyze them; consider what's really going on and how to deal with it. Don't let your feelings run unchecked.
Porn is bad for you as well as for men. Porn's just bad. It doesn't have any place in a healthy relationship. Nobody needs it. Don't watch it and don't ever turn a blind eye and accept a man watching it while he's dating you, either. It is sexual junk food and it does to your heart, mind, and soul what five meals of McDonalds per day does to your body.
Being feminine and traditional is good enough. Being womanly is good enough. We don't have to emulate the masculine in order to be taken seriously or get ahead or be happy in life. If your ambition is to be a great wife and mom, that is good enough! Feminism says that we must be career oriented, in possession of a degree, open to sexual experimentation, etc.in order to be a good strong woman. That's shit.
If you're white, don't date black men. You have a 97% chance, give or take, that they won't stick around, particularly if you get pregnant. Find a nice white guy instead. Ditto with Muslim men.Not even once, ladies.
Liberalism and feminism are mind cancer. They will destroy you as a person just as surely as they have destroyed family values and western society.
There are only two genders.
Read lots of good books, nonfiction as well as fiction.
Those are great points, particularly regarding fertility and not being able to have it all. A lot of western women assume that because men throw themselves at them when they're young, that this will continue forever and life will be eternally on easy-mode.
Unfortunately too few people point out that female youth, fertility, and beauty are a declining asset that women receive up front. Women need to use it to land a good man when they're young so they can develop other assets as they age (e.g. a pleasant temperament, children or a career, etc).
Otherwise gals end up wondering "where have all the good men gone" in their 30s because those good men have been making something of themselves while she's been squandering her SMV.
Those are great points, particularly regarding fertility and not being able to have it all. A lot of western women assume that because men throw themselves at them when they're young, that this will continue forever and life will be eternally on easy-mode.
It's not just that. It's your body itself and how our fertility naturally works. Taking it for granted is always, always a mistake. I did. I grew up in a Christian home...born again when I was 13...I decided to save sex for marriage, and married a guy who did too. We were virgins until our wedding night. I assumed that everything would be just fine in that department because we had waited, and that surely meant God would bless us with lots of kids. I was a vibrantly healthy 19-year-old, after all, so what could possibly go wrong?
hahaha sobbing Yeah, I was naive. So many things went wrong. Four of the six babies I ever conceived died, one at full term just out of the blue. Bringing kids into the world turned out to be laced with trauma and fear and grief for me, in spite of "doing it the right way" and being young and, I assumed, healthy. My female issues have only gotten worse as I've gotten older. I'm 34 now, and there's no way in hell I would ever want to try to start a family with the way my cycle is now! It's pretty screwed up. I'm so very thankful that we didn't wait, and that we managed to have the two kids we've got. Banking on "one day in my thirties" is a terrible idea for women. Oh it works out for some of them, but not everyone is lucky.
Women need to use it to land a good man when they're young so they can develop other assets as they age (e.g. a pleasant temperament, children or a career, etc).
That's another Red Pill for women - if you want to land a good man, then you have to develop your mind and character and temperament in your teen years, while you're young, because a good man will be looking for a woman who is kind and has strong values and is a delight to be around. He's gonna be less interested in an angry fembot.
Otherwise gals end up wondering "where have all the good men gone" in their 30s because those good men have been making something of themselves while she's been squandering her SMV.
Yep. This is especially true if she got herself pregnant and is currently a single mom. All those "good men" were the ones she spurned in favour of sleeping with the players.
The media is a mass conformity weapon to control and manipulate society, along with much of the educational system (including college, of which women should never attend). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qA-gbpt7Ts8
The point of society is to protect the most important job of all, motherhood. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-3X5hIFXYU White birth rate is well below the minimum 2.11 fertility rate, without change it will become inevitable that white nations will become non-white (probably islamic) nations and follow similar white extermination paths similar to zimbabwe and south africa. Feminism is basically suicide for a society and race (dating back to the roman empire).
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The best testament against feminism is old unhappy women. No matter her political leanings, she needs a real life example of the fruits of feminism. It is the easiest thing in the world to deconstruct the behavior of an ugly bitter woman.
So many young women think that they will get men to like them if they have sex with them. What I've seen with acquaintances is that they never form long-term, meaningful relationships if they are willing to hop into bed with every guy that shows the slighest interest in them. One acquaintance in particular is always bragging about all these men she is sleeping with, then will call me crying a few weeks later because they've all ghosted on her. Simply put, men don't respect a woman who doesn't respect herself or her body. This acquaintance puts up a facade of confidence, thinks it makes her attractive or desireable that all these men are wanting to have sex with her, but in my opinion she is just compensating for her low self-esteem and doesn't realize these men are just using her. In the end when it does come to light that this is exactly what's been happening, her self-esteem plummets even more.
By being virtuous and confident, she will weed out the bad eggs in the beginning and be able to form a meaningful relationship with the right person. It might be hurtful in the beginning, especially if she has young men who act interested in her and then run off when they find out she's not just some easy conquest. But if she love and respects herself, she will find someone who will love and respect her in turn.
Secondly, modern-day feminism is a cancer that seeks to erase femininity completely. They cherry pick their statistics on things like the "wage gap" and encourage young women to have sex with anyone and everything, health consequences be damned. Fat activism has also gotten tangled up in feminism, which again lies to young women about the damage they are doing to their bodies if they don't take care of them. Feminism claims to be encouraging women to take control of their bodies, but in reality is encouraging them to destroy them.
If she's interested, Lauren Southern and Daisy Cousens are two of my favourite anti-feminist internet personalities. They have some decent YouTube videos, and Southern even has a book available (I haven't read it yet though.)
Excellent points, especially about fat activism - so many young women in the prime of their life are already so damn fat these days, and instead of feeling embarrassed or trying to change, they instead take a million duck-lipped selfies and demand that everyone find them sexy. it's messed up. They're killing themselves with food and then demanding to be treated the same way as women who work to stay thin and fit and attractive, while telling the thin women how bad their thigh gaps are and how "unattainable" their bodies are. It makes me really angry.
When she approaches age 30 she will get baby rabies BECAUSE HER FERTILITY IS DYING. Baby rabies is not to be laughed at and I can't imagine the pain of having it while single.
At age 30-35 eggs start to run out and go bad and chances of having a healthy baby after 35 are not great.
She needs to find a quality guy ASAP, marry him and have babies in her early to mid 20s like her body is designed too. A quality guy is one with potential for providing. So seek intelligent and ambitious ones.
Having a career is not that fulfilling and jobs are not at all and you can do that later on in life anyway. No point starting one only to stop it to have babies.
Having babies may not be a priorty now but it needs to be if she ever wants some - and most women do.
Just be careful in your delivery. She may assume that you are grooming her to marry you and fall in love. So make your relationship very defined with her from now on. Or if she's pretty and loyal enough, maybe it's worth considering... I mean look around at all the other females there and evaluate their quality.
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Haha yes! @Warpig-034 what this one said - don't quote me exactly if you don't want to scare her off, I'm sure if you know her well you know how to work it into a organic conversation or be more gentle with it.
EDIT: further to my first comment; fertility treatments like IVF and Freezing young eggs etc are very expensive and have a very high failure rate if you look at real data not the sugar coated data the fertility companies put out (eg look at data of the number of successful births per egg used vs advertiaed number of successful births from successful pregnancies).
Feminism takes the absolute worst qualities from men that women look up to in a partner such as going for high paying jobs which remove them from family time, sexual freedom which turns them into sluts, etc. And it ruins them for husbands that want a wife and mother for their children as they'll get a masculine woman instead that will fight them for who wears the pants in the house which in turn will have them disrespect and never look up to their man like they need to.
Also woman absorb the dna of every male they fuck to avoid rejection any baby that might result from it. It doesn't matter if they get pregnant or not either, every lover will fundamentally change a woman at the genetic level and if the breeding of other animals is anything to go by there's a chance of those changes being passed on to the babies had years later too. That's why virgins have been prized since the dawn of time.
This was the most bitter red pill for me. I'd always thought guys liked me for my personality and looks were secondary. It was a bitter day when I realized that my personality wasn't attracting men - it was my looks. I'd actively dressed down thinking it would steer the shallow guys away and bring in the better ones who were looking for personality. Nope. Guys want youth and beauty. It's biology.
Your education is secondary. Your youth is temporary.
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[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 6 points 6 points (+6|-0) ago
Okay. A few hard and fast pieces of advice from a thirtysomething woman who has seen some shit. ;)
You can't be a whore all the way through your 20s and then magically find yourself a handsome, well-adjusted, nice man who wants to settle down and give you the beautiful life you feel you deserve. That doesn't work. If you want to sleep around, it will cost you dearly in the long run. If you know that one day you want to marry a good guy and have a family, don't go down Whore Avenue in the first place. Don't have hookups. Don't be anyone's booty call. Don't take strangers home from the club. Just don't. The kind of man who wants to be a family man will be entirely put off by a woman who's slutting it up; he's going to pick the nice girl who has a social life that doesn't revolve around alcohol, drugs, parties, and sex instead. So if you want that good guy, be the good girl who will catch his eye.
You can't actually "have it all", not all at the same time. You can get a degree. You can have a career. You can have a lovely family. But not all at once! Something has to give. Don't let it be your children.
Speaking of children, don't assume that you can put it off until your late 30s and still have the family you want. Your fertility peaks in your early 20s; not only that, but your body recovers much faster in your early 20s than it will later in life. One of the biggest lies feminism has told to women is that our fertility is totally in our control. It's not. If you want kids don't wait too long.
Learn to pay attention to your motivations - why you are thinking/feeling/saying/doing/wearing that. So many things we do flow out of things like insecurity or competitiveness toward other women, or a desire for male attention, or an abundance of emotion. The negative aspects of our female nature can easily overtake us and control us, but once you become aware of them you can take the steering wheel instead and they no longer have to hold sway.
Question your feelings. Always. The fact that you're feeling something doesn't make it the truth. You may feel hurt but that doesn't mean the person intended to hurt you or did anything wrong. You may feel regret but that doesn't mean you were sexually assaulted or raped. You may feel mad at your man but that doesn't mean he is in the wrong. You know? Feelings are awesome and they lend so much depth to the human experience...they are the drivers of art, of dance, of poetry and literature, of music and so many beautiful things. But they must be kept in check. They are meant to be felt, but we have to be careful not to let them call the shots, or guide our decisions, or be expressed carelessly or in a manner more befitting a hormonal twelve-year-old. Question your feelings. Feel them; analyze them; consider what's really going on and how to deal with it. Don't let your feelings run unchecked.
Porn is bad for you as well as for men. Porn's just bad. It doesn't have any place in a healthy relationship. Nobody needs it. Don't watch it and don't ever turn a blind eye and accept a man watching it while he's dating you, either. It is sexual junk food and it does to your heart, mind, and soul what five meals of McDonalds per day does to your body.
Being feminine and traditional is good enough. Being womanly is good enough. We don't have to emulate the masculine in order to be taken seriously or get ahead or be happy in life. If your ambition is to be a great wife and mom, that is good enough! Feminism says that we must be career oriented, in possession of a degree, open to sexual experimentation, etc.in order to be a good strong woman. That's shit.
If you're white, don't date black men. You have a 97% chance, give or take, that they won't stick around, particularly if you get pregnant. Find a nice white guy instead. Ditto with Muslim men.Not even once, ladies.
Liberalism and feminism are mind cancer. They will destroy you as a person just as surely as they have destroyed family values and western society.
There are only two genders.
Read lots of good books, nonfiction as well as fiction.
Lift weights.
I think that's about it for now!
[–] daskapitalist 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Those are great points, particularly regarding fertility and not being able to have it all. A lot of western women assume that because men throw themselves at them when they're young, that this will continue forever and life will be eternally on easy-mode.
Unfortunately too few people point out that female youth, fertility, and beauty are a declining asset that women receive up front. Women need to use it to land a good man when they're young so they can develop other assets as they age (e.g. a pleasant temperament, children or a career, etc).
Otherwise gals end up wondering "where have all the good men gone" in their 30s because those good men have been making something of themselves while she's been squandering her SMV.
[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
It's not just that. It's your body itself and how our fertility naturally works. Taking it for granted is always, always a mistake. I did. I grew up in a Christian home...born again when I was 13...I decided to save sex for marriage, and married a guy who did too. We were virgins until our wedding night. I assumed that everything would be just fine in that department because we had waited, and that surely meant God would bless us with lots of kids. I was a vibrantly healthy 19-year-old, after all, so what could possibly go wrong?
hahaha sobbing Yeah, I was naive. So many things went wrong. Four of the six babies I ever conceived died, one at full term just out of the blue. Bringing kids into the world turned out to be laced with trauma and fear and grief for me, in spite of "doing it the right way" and being young and, I assumed, healthy. My female issues have only gotten worse as I've gotten older. I'm 34 now, and there's no way in hell I would ever want to try to start a family with the way my cycle is now! It's pretty screwed up. I'm so very thankful that we didn't wait, and that we managed to have the two kids we've got. Banking on "one day in my thirties" is a terrible idea for women. Oh it works out for some of them, but not everyone is lucky.
That's another Red Pill for women - if you want to land a good man, then you have to develop your mind and character and temperament in your teen years, while you're young, because a good man will be looking for a woman who is kind and has strong values and is a delight to be around. He's gonna be less interested in an angry fembot.
Yep. This is especially true if she got herself pregnant and is currently a single mom. All those "good men" were the ones she spurned in favour of sleeping with the players.
[–] theepilepticferret 1 point -1 points 0 points (+0|-1) ago
"Men age like wine... Women age like milk" 😂
[–] WhiteSurvivalist 0 points 5 points 5 points (+5|-0) ago (edited ago)
The media is a mass conformity weapon to control and manipulate society, along with much of the educational system (including college, of which women should never attend). https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=qA-gbpt7Ts8
The point of society is to protect the most important job of all, motherhood. https://www.youtube.com/watch?v=6-3X5hIFXYU White birth rate is well below the minimum 2.11 fertility rate, without change it will become inevitable that white nations will become non-white (probably islamic) nations and follow similar white extermination paths similar to zimbabwe and south africa. Feminism is basically suicide for a society and race (dating back to the roman empire).
[–] Le_Squish 0 points 4 points 4 points (+4|-0) ago
The best testament against feminism is old unhappy women. No matter her political leanings, she needs a real life example of the fruits of feminism. It is the easiest thing in the world to deconstruct the behavior of an ugly bitter woman.
[–] theepilepticferret 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
So many young women think that they will get men to like them if they have sex with them. What I've seen with acquaintances is that they never form long-term, meaningful relationships if they are willing to hop into bed with every guy that shows the slighest interest in them. One acquaintance in particular is always bragging about all these men she is sleeping with, then will call me crying a few weeks later because they've all ghosted on her. Simply put, men don't respect a woman who doesn't respect herself or her body. This acquaintance puts up a facade of confidence, thinks it makes her attractive or desireable that all these men are wanting to have sex with her, but in my opinion she is just compensating for her low self-esteem and doesn't realize these men are just using her. In the end when it does come to light that this is exactly what's been happening, her self-esteem plummets even more.
By being virtuous and confident, she will weed out the bad eggs in the beginning and be able to form a meaningful relationship with the right person. It might be hurtful in the beginning, especially if she has young men who act interested in her and then run off when they find out she's not just some easy conquest. But if she love and respects herself, she will find someone who will love and respect her in turn.
Secondly, modern-day feminism is a cancer that seeks to erase femininity completely. They cherry pick their statistics on things like the "wage gap" and encourage young women to have sex with anyone and everything, health consequences be damned. Fat activism has also gotten tangled up in feminism, which again lies to young women about the damage they are doing to their bodies if they don't take care of them. Feminism claims to be encouraging women to take control of their bodies, but in reality is encouraging them to destroy them.
If she's interested, Lauren Southern and Daisy Cousens are two of my favourite anti-feminist internet personalities. They have some decent YouTube videos, and Southern even has a book available (I haven't read it yet though.)
[–] Sarcastatron_9000 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
Excellent points, especially about fat activism - so many young women in the prime of their life are already so damn fat these days, and instead of feeling embarrassed or trying to change, they instead take a million duck-lipped selfies and demand that everyone find them sexy. it's messed up. They're killing themselves with food and then demanding to be treated the same way as women who work to stay thin and fit and attractive, while telling the thin women how bad their thigh gaps are and how "unattainable" their bodies are. It makes me really angry.
[–] OneOfTheBoys 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Female life plan needs implementing when young.
When she approaches age 30 she will get baby rabies BECAUSE HER FERTILITY IS DYING. Baby rabies is not to be laughed at and I can't imagine the pain of having it while single.
At age 30-35 eggs start to run out and go bad and chances of having a healthy baby after 35 are not great.
She needs to find a quality guy ASAP, marry him and have babies in her early to mid 20s like her body is designed too. A quality guy is one with potential for providing. So seek intelligent and ambitious ones.
Having a career is not that fulfilling and jobs are not at all and you can do that later on in life anyway. No point starting one only to stop it to have babies.
Having babies may not be a priorty now but it needs to be if she ever wants some - and most women do.
[–] Calgacus 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
Just be careful in your delivery. She may assume that you are grooming her to marry you and fall in love. So make your relationship very defined with her from now on. Or if she's pretty and loyal enough, maybe it's worth considering... I mean look around at all the other females there and evaluate their quality.
[–] OneOfTheBoys ago (edited ago)
Haha yes! @Warpig-034 what this one said - don't quote me exactly if you don't want to scare her off, I'm sure if you know her well you know how to work it into a organic conversation or be more gentle with it.
EDIT: further to my first comment; fertility treatments like IVF and Freezing young eggs etc are very expensive and have a very high failure rate if you look at real data not the sugar coated data the fertility companies put out (eg look at data of the number of successful births per egg used vs advertiaed number of successful births from successful pregnancies).
[–] 475677 1 point 2 points 3 points (+3|-1) ago
Feminism takes the absolute worst qualities from men that women look up to in a partner such as going for high paying jobs which remove them from family time, sexual freedom which turns them into sluts, etc. And it ruins them for husbands that want a wife and mother for their children as they'll get a masculine woman instead that will fight them for who wears the pants in the house which in turn will have them disrespect and never look up to their man like they need to.
Also woman absorb the dna of every male they fuck to avoid rejection any baby that might result from it. It doesn't matter if they get pregnant or not either, every lover will fundamentally change a woman at the genetic level and if the breeding of other animals is anything to go by there's a chance of those changes being passed on to the babies had years later too. That's why virgins have been prized since the dawn of time.
[–] con77 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
racer mixing is not "cool".
[–] 1madmanamongmany 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
This.
[–] Ticklepaws ago
Guys don't fuck your personality or your degree.
This was the most bitter red pill for me. I'd always thought guys liked me for my personality and looks were secondary. It was a bitter day when I realized that my personality wasn't attracting men - it was my looks. I'd actively dressed down thinking it would steer the shallow guys away and bring in the better ones who were looking for personality. Nope. Guys want youth and beauty. It's biology.
Your education is secondary. Your youth is temporary.