Article/Blog Archived The bottom line is your marriage is your testimony to the world, and when people see you walk away, what does that say? (makingfamilycount.com)
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Article/Blog Archived The bottom line is your marriage is your testimony to the world, and when people see you walk away, what does that say? (makingfamilycount.com)
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[–] totes_magotes 0 points 1 point 1 point (+1|-0) ago
I did that once and I was applauded by everyone except her family and her 4 or 5 closest friends who are incidentally all mentally broken in some way still today. I tried for four years to lift her up and fix and deal with the issues and she wanted nothing to do with it. I had her job interviews lined up (not even my field of work either and that takes some doing) and she blew them all. For her, fixing a simple bowl of soup was something I was supposed to give copious amounts of praise for. She went to school twice to learn how to do something with herself and flat out refused to do anything with that education each time... but I had to pay for it.
Hell, she even came to me and thanked me afterwards saying it was the best thing I could have done for both of us.
At some point, you have to recognize that some things which shouldn't come to an end sometimes have to.
And it was the best thing that could have happened to me.
[–] Funkypurplekitty [S] 0 points 3 points 3 points (+3|-0) ago
Fighting for your marriage and trying to fix someone else are not really the same thing, though that's great that you tried to stick it out, no one can fix anyone but themselves and that's sad that she did not realize it till she was out of the marriage.