I have been looking at a lot on this sub, especially regarding how to talk to your man. I don't go out of my way to make my man feel demeaned but I'm also far from perfect and tend to get accusative when upset.
When I saw that he was unmotivated to do some basic tasks, I became worried for him, and my worrying turned into accusing him of being unmotivated. The moment I found myself doing this I stopped, took a step back, and thought back to a few helpful tips on here on how to talk to your man without belittling him and the like. Instead of lawyering up and citing all my evidence of him being unmotivated, I re-framed my thoughts in a gentler tone, explaining that I simply was worried that he was not prioritizing his own needs because I knew that in the end, him putting off these tasks made him feel even less energized and happy.
And instead of an argument (which would have been started by me being accusing), he said "you know, that's a good point. You're right, I would feel a lot better if I just got up and got started on this." I was amazed!!
This sub never fails to amaze me by showing me that this gentle 50's wife figure wasn't as naive as I was told she was, traditional wives really know how to get things done without a fuss!