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I'm not going to pretend that I don't wait on my SO. I love to cook and host dinner parties, and on regular days I still cook and serve him his food, clean up, etc., but I do it because I choose to and because I love him and respect him, and he has his own responsibilities. I have my own work, my own friends, speak to who I want, go where I want, and don't need permission to do things.
There is a difference between being a partner and being a slave.
I think you hit the nail on the head. My husband has certain expectations of me as a wife. He expects loyalty, faithfulness, honesty. He expects me to contribute to our household financially (since we don't have children) and he expects my help and support in all areas of our lives.
He does not expect me to act as a servant to him. I often do serve him as an expression of my love for him but he didn't marry me because he wanted me to be his cook/maid/concubine. He married me so that he could have me as a partner. It's a different dynamic when you are expected and required to be a servant than when you choose to be a helpmate.
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[–] lastditchtryforaname 0 points 2 points 2 points (+2|-0) ago
I think you hit the nail on the head. My husband has certain expectations of me as a wife. He expects loyalty, faithfulness, honesty. He expects me to contribute to our household financially (since we don't have children) and he expects my help and support in all areas of our lives.
He does not expect me to act as a servant to him. I often do serve him as an expression of my love for him but he didn't marry me because he wanted me to be his cook/maid/concubine. He married me so that he could have me as a partner. It's a different dynamic when you are expected and required to be a servant than when you choose to be a helpmate.